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We are a couple that have been more or less mono for the last twenty or so years. Married fourteen. Well I was wired mono she never has been. She had suggested poly for years but I reacted badly every time. About nine months ago we invited JLs(wife) BF (SV) to live with us (he is from out of...

Howdy Pepper, In reading the seconds bill of rights I found this line: "When I am in a relationship with one person, I am in a relationship with all the other people that person is involved with, especially the primary partner(s)--even if there is no romantic connection between us! If I am...

At the time I met NG I was working on being ok with SV but did not understand some fundamental things. One of which was the if she loves him she has to love me less thing and the why am I not enough for her thing. That was about nine months ago and A LOT has happened since. Including my...

Your relationship sounds a lot like how ours started. We were fifteen when we met twenty years ago. One of the larger things that I let go when I finally got right with things (I was the dyed in the wool mono) was the co-dependence. She and I are more like the best friends we were years ago...

Autum, trashy may not be the right word but you nailed the essence of it. I think the word JL would use is dangerous . Im running up against the "i want you to have this but not her" thing. I did manage to pick the one woman we know that JL had bad blood with. JL tried very very hard to get...

Part of what you said jives with another thing that keeps passing through my currently muddled mind. It is our own decision who we like/love and also the currently dawning realization that we really dont even have a choice in who we love anyway, we just DO As far as independence goes doesnt...

In need of a little outside insight. My wife (JL) and I have recently gone through a rough time in regards to my first emotional connection outside our marriage. Being new to this I have made numerous mistakes. Hell we all did. Its been a month since things ended with NG and I and the...