Recent content by Etherealbeing

Hi! A bloody unicorn here. Beautiful conversation and it looks like you are really doing your best to prepare the ground for an ethical relationship. I don't know why I tend to end up in closedish triad situations, probably some quirks of mine, but well. Just thought I join the conversation as...

Good point @Magdlyn. "The wifes" needs are off course valid and valuable. Though I would always go with honesty upfront, as I have done when I found myself in that situation with a partner who was not able to meet my needs and kept witholding love, comfort and closeness for a long long time. But...

Honesty is the first and most important principle in ethical polyamory. I wouldn't support their relationship before everybody involved is aware of the situation. When in a polyamorous situation everyone involved affects everyone. If your wife's bfs' wife would be aware, it would most likely...

Hi Magdlyn! Appreciate your interest. 🌺 Yes, I have a polyplatonic relationship with my ex/co-parent/best friend. I do also have a polyplatonic relationship with my metamour, my partners' wife. And I have other friends with whom I share the kind of intimacy, commitment and connection, that...

Great to see this here, as it is exactly what has been going on in my life - where I am finding myself at. As it seems buffling to some, maybe an example will help: So my partner D and I are both demisexual and we have a deep connection on all levels between us. Both of us also have another...

Hey! I get you @AlsoSometimesPoodles. I have a similar view about hierarchy and the term "secondary" as you do. I feel accepting a role as secondary would be to accept I am in a hierarchical relationship - and also will be for as long as I agree to it. It would be me giving away my power and...

It's not easy being a hinge. This sounds like he is not clear on his needs and boundaries with you or Sarah or himself. He could take a look at what kind of a partner does he want to be with you and what kind of partner does he want to be with Sarah? What are his needs in these relationships...

There is nothing sad or bad about being an emotional person. You are perfect just as you are. Self-respect and self-compassion can heal a lot. We can only be who we are. Not a tougher, easier version of ourselves to better suit other peoples needs and desires. Being authentic and outspoken about...