Recent content by Fae

Heh, it's true; you're pretty good at picking up on my bad mental habits... have you been talking to my therapist? ;D (And yes, I do have one; I suspect I'm due to talk over this some more with her. She's quite familiar with the way I sometimes get into these all-or-nothing extremes that you're...

Daysleeper, thank you so much for your insight — your words seem very wise. From where I am now, it can be easy to forget that time spent in a relationship is relative; this is still (all things considered) a quite new relationship, and it makes sense that with time my bond with both M and R...

Now that I'm here, I thought I would seek some much-needed advice and insight. Though my mff triad — as I described in my introduction — is generally a wonderful part of my life, I still can't help but struggle with certain aspects of the relationship — most notably the subject of this thread...

I definitely agree with Love2Bake. It sounds to me like your wife is, at this point in time, just saying what she thinks she needs to say in order to appease you. Poly relationships require a lot of trust and communication, and directly after an affair you're going to be low on that trust...

I'm glad to read about your experiences because of how much your situation reminds me of my own. The anxiety, the worry, the fear of being somehow only a "second class" part of the relationship by virtue of being the newcomer, the uncertainty that comes of not having the same degree of...

Thank you for the welcome, Kevin! Yes, it is a very happy relationship, albeit one I more or less stumbled into. (Funny how things work out, sometimes.) I don't think any of us realized we had the capacity to be poly until we found each other, as somewhat hokey as that sounds. We all balance...

Hey everyone, I'm extremely new here and just starting to find my way around, but this seems like as good a place to begin as any (though I've also started trying to tackle those "golden nugget" threads). I'm a twenty three-year-old bi (or pan, if you want to get fancy about it) (cis)lady and...