Recent content by Faerylights

Emm, That video was very helpful. Thank you. :)

Hey LR, excellent point. I tend to have emotions first and locate my logic later (sometimes, like today, with help). "Not now" doesn't mean "not ever." --Thank you.

Grateful I posted a lengthy reply thanking each of you by name for the concerns and perspectives you brought, because being able to read and reflect really helped me . . .and then I suppose I lingered over it too long, because when I tried to post it, the system acted like I was logged out and...

Galagirl: That's it. And those desires are something I'm well aware can't necessarily be met. Just like coming out to my folks didn't mean they really wanted to hear about my next girlfriend and what a great person I thought she was.

Leaving out the "relationship" word. That's a really good point -- thanks to you and Dagferi. I hadn't considered just being open about my affection & not the full nature of it -- but in my circles, even in my church circles, that wouldn't raise many eyebrows. People who know me are familiar...

Hi everyone, I've only seriously embarked on a triad relationship with two of my best friends (married to each other) in the last week or so, but it has its own weird pace because we've known each other a while and been sexual partners in the past. My male partner and I have spent the past two...

Thanks Bookbug and Dirtclustit for the encouragement and thoughtful advice. I've already learned a lot on this forum and from the threads I've started . . .I'm thinking of giving this time and then maybe starting a blog. But you all are awesome. :)

You all are wonderful So . . ."my" erstwhile couple had me over tonight and it turns out they've been in as much distress as I have, because they do take me quite seriously. Both of them recounted lost sleep, reading online, thinking, and very much wanting me to be with them. I let them talk...

Hi bookbug, Thank you so much for the way you presented things; it gave me something to hope towards.

Also, thanks Natja for the comfort, idealist for the suggestions (and I'm 29, so -- not young, but very new to poly anything), and NR for the thoughtful and considered response. I've definitely been sad, and I'm so glad to find so many people willing to reach out and offer help. You all are great.

Thanks for the encouragement and advice. I don't want to be a unicorn, but I know the term isn't always pejorative. What I do want, if I have anything poly, is healthy relationships with two other people where all three of us can learn to freely exchange love. I like triangles in geometry --...

Thanks for the support, London. It's good to hear from someone who can point out the good side of this, that we all communicated and were honest. It definitely could have been worse. Doesn't mean I feel great right now, but I really appreciate your words.

So I'm a new member (female, bi and about a 4 on the Kinsey scale), and had shared on the Introductions thread that I've been involved, first as a close friend and then as an occasional lover/friend, with a het male/bi female couple whom I adore. During the times we slept together, I was...

Re: Christian faith Thanks for the support, PolyinPractice. It's a little trickier than that, unfortunately. I really care about the Church (and its fuck-ups, but I believe there's good to be harnessed, learned from, and encouraged there, as well as lots of crap to be eradicated), and the...

Hi Kevin, Thank you for being so welcoming. I woke up to see this message at the top of my email, and it really brightened my morning.