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    Being "in a relationship" (sex & love)

    Thanks! Hi River and FallenAngelina, Thanks very much! I've learned something about navigating this forum! P.S. An astute observer will notice that my age has gone up since Tuesday. Wednesday was my birthday. 6 months since I saw Jacques...
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    Being "in a relationship" (sex & love)

    In post #9, Karen (FallenAngelina) said: Your new love relationship confims that. You spell out exactly why in your other thread: Quote: Originally Posted by River View Post ....And that 25% desire is about 95% desire to share something WITH, rather than get something FROM -- also a new state...
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    My boyfriend has dementia

    So I visited Jacques in LA The perfectionist in me has taken forever to write this. I don’t think it’s “ready” but I should post it anyway. It’s been way too long since my visit to LA. MrFarFromRight - your reply came after I’d come back from LA. If I’d seen it earlier I might have done...
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    Making him happy at my expense?

    Hi Jane Q, Is it post #36 in The Notebook? (I can't figure out how to link to it either, but searched for "OKC" in that thread.) Great story! FAL -------------------------------- M - Me - Mandelbrot - female, 60 - _trying_ to figure out if I'm poly Clyde (previously B) - 58 - my husband...
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    My boyfriend has dementia

    Yeah, except I'm afraid that even bringing it up would blow everything out of the water, and she'd never let me see him again. I'm going to have to see how far gone he is. She said "he's not a blithering idiot," and seemed to think it would be OK to put him on a plane by himself to travel...
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    My boyfriend has dementia

    What's on the table? So, an interesting question - is anything beyond a hug and a peck on the cheek with Jacques off the table? I have no idea what it’ll actually be like to see him, whether there’ll be any chemistry there or not, but I’ve been contemplating the thought anyway. And it seems...
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    My boyfriend has dementia

    Headed west Hi MrFarFromRight, Nope, can’t say I’m a Cancer. I’m a Scorpio. So, Clyde isn’t feeling very comfortable about feeling responsible for Jaques’ well being if he should come to visit us. So what we’ve finally come up with is that I’m going to the West Coast by myself to visit...
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    My boyfriend has dementia

    A possible visit... Thanks Kevin, Gala Girl and MFFR for your kind words. MFFR, Artemis certainly knows at least _some_ about the nature of our communication. She knows Jacques sent me two Adele CDs. She knows I was his first girlfriend. She knows that things got to the point of my...
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    My boyfriend has dementia

    Background - Back in the fall of 2013, my high school boyfriend, Jacques, contacted me after having been out of touch for 38 years. We decided we both still/again cared about each other and had what I guess would be best described as an emotional affair, at least on his part. (My husband...
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    Be careful what you ask for

    Definitely dementia So, I’ve been sending e-mails periodically. Chatty things about what’s going on with life. Occasional requests to please be able to come and visit. Silence. Well, I figured that Artemis had a lot on her plate, and if no one was telling me to actually _go away_, I was...
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    feeling heart broken

    Actually, I think the threesome remark was made by the mutual friend through whom they met. I too was wondering _where_ they met. In terms of, on Seasiren's home turf? On his? On vacation somewhere else? But in any case, sounds like he said - this particular LDR isn't going to work for me...
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    Be careful what you ask for

    Hi GG, Thanks for your condolences. My desired outcome is all those things. I'd like to stay in touch and hopefully even visit. I've been sending chatty e-mails about once a week. And gotten nothing back. (See my previous post - reply to Kevin.) I have no idea what a good frequency is...
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    Be careful what you ask for

    Kevin, Thanks for your support. I went back and read your blog. I'd forgotten that LV passed away only last year. You said that Brother Husband and Snowbunny noticed changes in her as far back as 2004. So you were dealing with this for 9 years! I have a friend who is a family practice...
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    What to do when your'e dating both of them & then they break up

    Maybe I'm missing something. I think she didn't hear from the _girlfriend_ for 2 weeks. Not the guy. So I wouldn't be judging him on _that_ account. I don't have much experience this arena, but the casual dating if he's up for it seems the way to go right now. and definitely getting tested...
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    Be careful what you ask for

    Short version - My boyfriend from high school, Jacques, contacted me last fall, but we cut off contact to save his marriage. What I wanted was for Jacques’ wife Artemis to be OK with my being in touch with him, and maybe my being able to see him. To give him a real hug rather than a virtual...
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