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Luck indeed! *Fingers crossed* The place where WK is trying to poach him right now (WK would gladly recommend him). He'll likely do the interviews, and get a 'free' flight out even if he doesn't take the job. DK is reluctant to 'follow' me, as he wants to make sure he's making decisions that...

6 month update! (I always like to see updates in other threads, so...) I actually met TJ in person a few months ago, after everything had blown over. She introduced herself, shook my hand, although she might have been overcompensating a little. Alcohol also may have had something to do with...

Haha, hormones - I know this feeling. My brain is always kicking me and yelling "BABIES" at me. But, you're not crazy. You're planning ahead, and trying to anticipate problems that children might create with Partner - this is a good thing. That said, you're probably worrying about things that...

Haha, seating arrangements sorted themselves out the instant we got there :) It was awesome having dinner with the two of them. DK and TJ update: They went on a break for about 2-3 weeks, and everything cooled down quite a bit. DK realized that he probably didn't want things to continue with...

Thanks for the supportive messages :) I can't believe how many posts you reply to, KDT, it's seriously impressive. Limbo could be a lot worse, and I really don't envy DK's situation. By having me in his life, I believe that he feels that finding a primary partner will be much, much harder...

Limbooo Since I get frustrated when I run into an interesting thread, but OP doesn't updated.... update! Things are pretty limbo right now. DK and TJ are on a 'break' and aren't talking, which DK finds pretty miserable because the two of them work together. DK has been doing a lot of thinking...

Update: DK visited this weekend. We respected the "no pants off fun" rule, and did talk about this stuff. Lo and behold, it didn't ruin our date. :) It was really, really good to see him - it's hard going through this stuff when I can't get the occasional hug for reassurance. I've talked to him...

Seconding NYCinde's suggestion-- firmly put the ball in her court to suggest a day/time that is good for her. She's still texting back. I think that's a good sign.

(Homework update) I've been looking through the forums, and it's really good when I find something relevant, and then I go through the WHOLE thread. I figure I should keep updating this little intro thread in case somebody having metamour problems in the future and find it relevant. I found...

Ugh, that sounds like a really rough situation. I'd recommend Veaux's controversial bill of Secondary rights (http://www.xeromag.com/fvsecondary.html#bor). It's a helpful "are they treating me decently?" checklist. From your post, that sounds like a lot for two weeks. Technically, the Titanic...

That's exactly what the case is right now. Yup, I think it's just difficult for DK or TJ to call it. After being broken up for the day, both were having second thoughts and trying to think of a way to make it work. They're having a cool-off-and-think week after things came to a head a few days...

Thanks for the welcome message, kdt! Haha, well, I did a bit of lurking first. Seems like a lot of people come here for advice on situations, and laying out the situation can be pretty long and confusing, so, I tried. It is between TJ and DK, but I'm trying to give all the love and support I...

Coming out A couple days I called my Mum and "came out", and explained what was up, and how I was seeing DK again. She was super understanding, and threw out the word "polyamourous" before I did. Like basically all my mono friends, I did get the usual "what if DK finds somebody else to be mono...

It seems like you're doing everything right from my female perspective. I don't think it would be pushy to let her know that if she wants to talk to you about it in person you'd be happy to, maybe after she's had a little bit of time to process. I usually find myself wanting more info than less...

Ahh, I can commiserate. I feel like WK gets thrown in my face in my current dealing quite a bit - "but you have WK! You must like him more/he's more important/everything is unfair because you've got him!" It's hard not to pick that one out. SchrodingersCat seemed to lay out the same options I...