Recent content by FieryFlames

We honestly should have recognized the red flags this time... we're no stranger to emotional abuse (thank you families...) but we kept explaining things away as something else. Part of the problem was that Nukes didn't want us to tell anyone we know here, so we didn't have anyone to talk to...

Sorry for the long hiatus. Thought I should come back and give an update. I don't know if I'm ever going to be able to get all the details down in writing. At this point I'd just like to move on and leave it as a painful reminder to not let us lose ourselves again. We did move out of Nuke's...

The premise that we all said we didn't personally want to add another to the triad but would be open to discussing that later to make sure everyone was comfortable continuing with such a change? In your other responses you seemed to think the problem was that Mr. Pants and I set rules for Nukes...

nycindie - Are you interpreting "we" as just Mr. Pants and I? When we say "we" discussed something, we do mean all three of us. Mr. Pants and I realize that we have couple's privilege and have tried to keep this in mind when discussing our relationship with each other (all three of us). From the...

Hey, I'm here I promise. I just switched antidepressants on Saturday and in the midst of all this plus adjusting medication (and not being able to get restful sleep) I haven't had the time or energy to hammer out a reply. Even though I've really wanted to. Everything Mr. Pants has said so far...

Hey, welcome! From one newbie to another, lol. I know it means a lot to be able to talk freely with others who are familiar with poly relationships so that you can bounce your thoughts off them without worrying about them judging you or giving advice from a non-poly perspective. We're glad...

Hi Poohbear! My husband (PhysicsIsPants) and I are in a triad with our best friend, and we would both be happy to talk to you, if you'd like. Our girlfriend isn't a forum member at this time, sorry. You can also read our introduction posts (his and mine) if you'd like more detail on how we came...

I can understand why your wife's actions would upset you and damage your trust. I think your feelings are valid. I honestly don't really know how to provide feedback for this because, like you, I am also wary of how well this will pan out given the events you describe here. Poly relationships...

Whew! I am sooooooooo behind on posts. I was out of town from July 1-6 for Vegas with Nukes (OMG so fun!), so I have a bit of catching up to do, clearly... I have not seen a professional for diagnosis. I suspect that I am suffering from anxiety and mild depression, and have been for quote some...

Wow, I'm really late to the replies here. Sorry. :-P -------------------------------------------------------------------------- Spork - We're appreciating the thoughtful replies, no worries about hijacking. :D We like talking to you too! I appreciate the additional info about BDSM/kink. I...

Not prying at all! But without divulging too much identifying information (our third triad member must play things closer to the vest than either PIP or I, and we don't want to accidentally put her in a bad spot)... we moved across our state from a metroplex-type area to a large but very...

Me too, thanks. I hope I'll find a better one soon. Wish we had a Planned Parenthood in my city, they always treated me exceptionally well and with respect before I moved away.

No one's looked into my thyroid. No one's looked into anything, really, and they don't seem to want to. Two years ago I had to argue about getting my hormones tested because they refused to do it. They came back normal but then my OBGYN said I might have PCOS anyway, which was confusing because...

This is always hard to explain to others, and I'm never sure we have the same concept in mind by the end of it, lol. :p It's sensual in the context of being in physical contact with someone else. I want to hold hands, cuddle, stroke, etc. but don't have any sort of sexual attraction or desire to...

Hi Kevin - I guess I would be willing to consider it; however, the way my asexuality intersects with my libido makes it very hard to convey to most people how the typical "solutions" don't make sense for me. I also have some anxiety issues that make it very hard for me to seek out doctors and...