Recent content by FragsNRuins

They steam-rollered the BF into your house. Jesus Christ. I'm sorry for the struggle you've been experiencing, Reader. We only get your viewpoint from this thread, but your wife seems utterly ruthless. I don't think it was unreasonable to not want them both in your house for his visit. It is...

Cuddling is inextricably linked to sexual intimacy for me, it's just the way I'm wired. I can dig it that other people can cuddle platonically. I will continue to avoid mass cuddling and such while gloriously indulging in it with my lovers. Recently, my girlfriend wanted to get a cuddle pile...

Basically, I just want to "+1" everything GalaGirl just said. As was mentioned earlier in this thread, you should really consider what you're getting out of opening up this relationship. It sounds like you're going through a challenging time and your boyfriend is firmly controlling the pace of...

When my wife and I first opened up to polyamory, I had to keep it secret at work for others' sake. There was one friend of mine that I didn't want to hide it from, though, because I was fairly close to her and I couldn't stand the thought of her thinking I was cheating on my incredible wife (as...

Muse and her housemates had a party last night, and I was invited to it. I was worried that it would be a big to-do, but it ended up being a pleasant low key affair. The food was excellent, and it's always great to be able to hang out with Muse in an adult setting. Muse's back-and-forth...

GreenAcres hit the nail on the head, in my opinion. Taking away someone's choice about matters that are so personal (sexual health, as a specific example) is unethical. This is assuming the fucking around would be on the "down low". Things get murkier and less unethical, when people are openly...

Is it not possible to transition your relationships and living situation in such a way that you are no longer romantically and financially entangled with your husband, but able to pursue a romantic and entangled relationship with your friend? What I'm getting at is that, in my opinion, there is...

Man, it's been a long time since I've updated this blog. Honestly, I've sort of been living vicariously through my wife's blog, here: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=76173. The truth of the matter is that there hasn't been much uncertainty, upheaval, or other drama in my own poly...

Sexual Frustration Rage, AKA bog-standard male entitlement. As others have said, I recommend getting out of this relationship, Ladyofcups. It sounds like the sort of situation that will only get worse if you happen to discover that you two are sexually incompatible after all.

When I first heard about polyamory, I ridiculed it and really couldn't wrap my head around it. I don't blame people if they don't grok it right away. I'm out to several people at this time, and the only negative reaction I've received so far was from a couple who had their own relationship...

I've definitely become a better person since opening my marriage. I communicate better, and I feel so much stronger. It's not like I was sorely lacking in those categories before opening up, but the improvement I felt was surprising. I will admit to feeling superior sometimes, but it's not due...

It's been said a bunch already, but I guess it doesn't hurt to repeat it. I don't advise changing your core being to make a relationship work. You will never forget your sacrifice, and it will always be a part of your relationship. Whether that would fester or not in the future I can't say...

Yep, I'm certainly not really interested right now in wheedling my way further into their lives. At least on my girlfriend's side.

Yeah, it's definitely having an affect on how I perceive them. In the end, I can only control myself and how I conduct myself in my relationship with my girlfriend. I try not to worry so much about what my metamours are up to, as it's not my personal business. It does lead to some irritation and...

My metamour relationships so far range from strong irritation to being interested in being friends. My girlfriend (whom my wife is also dating) has multiple romantic relationships, and it seems like so many of them are simply opportunities for people to be dismissive of her. It's extremely...