Recent content by FreeSpirit

Not sure if your questions are hypothetical, but I'll answer them as if they weren't. These things are all subjective, and depend on the individual relationship and the people involved. It's going to be murky and situational even within the parameters of an individual relationship oftentimes...

No worries, sorry for taking it the wrong way. I'm not sure how I could have handled it differently. Remaining silent about my discomfort would be dishonest in my eyes, and not something I'd be comfortable with. I prefer to voice my feelings, but not let them make me nag. No, I don't think...

Ha ha, I think you've got the wrong idea of the situation. Perhaps I explained it poorly. He's still a very good mutual friend to both of us, and we hang out with him often. I'm certainly doing nothing to stand in the way of them communicating or being close. And her interest in him was pretty...

Well, I did voice outright that I was uneasy with it, but in such a way that implied that it'd be fine after I got used to the feelings, which I thought was true at the time. After more thought, I realized it wasn't really something I wanted to be comfortable with in regards to this particular...

I suppose over the years I've grown accustomed to being the more adaptable on in my relations with people and finding that it's simpler to adjust myself to the situation rather than try to ask others to adjust to my desires. In this case though, I just felt I had no right to ask my partner to...

Thank you both for the input! Yes, by "getting together with" I meant sex. Apologies for the vagueness. I did communicate my concerns about him pretty thoroughly, and she did decide to not pursue it further, though I think it was more out of concern for my desires than out of my caution about...

Ack, accidentally double posted this thread. If a moderator would like to delete this one, I'd appreciate it. I don't think I'm able to do so myself.

Hi. I've been with my girlfriend almost a year, living with her, and we're dabbling into polyamory. My views have been back and forth on the mono/poly spectrum for a long time, and believe I've settled into something that works for me (single committed partnership with emotional and sometimes...

Hi. I've been with my girlfriend almost a year, living with her, and we're dabbling into polyamory. My views have been back and forth on the mono/poly spectrum for a long time, and believe I've settled into something that works for me (single committed partnership with emotional and sometimes...