Recent content by GardenMinstrel

Yeah. Definitely not a good introduction. I agree with Galagirl. This relationship is toxic for you. How badly would you be impacted at work if you broke up with him? How might you minimize any negative stuff? I see that you're in the SF Bay Area. There are scads of good poly groups and...

That's pretty much my thought as well. There are just way too many ways in which that can blow up in your face, starting with being involuntarily "outed" at work, which in a lot of places can cost you your job. There are other awesome people out there whom you may have a connection with, but...

Check the books section for recommendations on stuff that might help you navigate this Brave New World. Good luck!

I'm with the majority here: You're not in a good situation, and the person you love isn't acting toward you in loving ways. I know that I'm only seeing one side of this - yours - but when she starts gaslighting you and making her actions about *your* behaviors, that's crossing a line from...

339 Thanks, Kevin! :) Already looking around, and it looks like you've got a fair number of other wise souls here already.

I'm sorry to hear about your heartbreak. By definition, it hurts and is going to take some time for you to recover from. How's your husband doing, by way of helping support you during this time? He probably shouldn't be your only source of emotional support, but he can be an awesome source...

Hi! I'm Loren, and I've been bouncing around various corners of the polyverse, online and off, since the mid-80s. Formerly in southern and northern California (yes, I'm probably *that* Loren), I'm currently single and living by myself about ten minutes from the beach on the beautiful Gulf...