It can and does work
Prof has been with me for 10 and Mad Sci for 15. We also had a 5 year relationship with another couple, though the husband in that relationship sadly died, we are still close with his widow and her children, though not intimate now.
It is a lot of work but it isn't hard...
We are middle aged gamers, educated professionals but not terribly conscious of fashion we fall into the comfort clothes category. We love food and cooking, games and movies. We live in a quiet neighborhood that overlooks a park and no one really thinks about us much.
I think my poly life would not make for interesting viewing. we are fat middle aged and generally pretty agreeable. We've had a long time to practice though. What I am trying to say is that unless there are hot young people having sex most people would find poly too normal to watch...
wow this thread has gone crazy
Just for the record. I am female, I am bi. I am not disgusted by anyone's opinion on this board. I enjoy all kinds of porn and am not imaginary, going through a phase, or doing it for a man. I think whatever makes you happiest you should do, unless it causes harm...
Your question is unclear. Are you looking for people who are interested to talk to and explore the idea as a concept? or Are you looking for people interested in having this arrangement with you?:confused:
I am sorry to hear this is happening to you. Here at our house, if it isn't honest and upfront there had better be a good reason for it. Even if he hasn't outright lied, even if he's just "waiting for the right time to tell you" even if he really loves you both and wants you to be happy without...
Poly in Arkansas
Prof, Mad Science and I are a poly triad in Central Arkansas if you want to chat PM me and we can exchange info. We are not actively seeking new partners at the moment but we are always open to new friends. You are not alone.
I just wrote about negotiation on my blog. These are the things we keep in mind ourselves it may be helpful your you. Been poly and married 13+ years we are happy and it's working. Also check out the post on Fighting vs P/S communication. The link to my blog is in my sig. Good luck.
For us there are very few deal breakers.
Breaking the safe, sane and consensual code.
-unprotected sex (having fluid exchange with untested or known promiscuous persons who are not willing or able to produce clean test results)
- sex with someone who is compromised emotionally or...
Have you considered negotiating a temporary separation to give him a chance to be with only her for a bit, with a time limit and conditions?
Is the relationship really over if he chooses her, is it a deal breaker? Say if he decided to come back to you, would you take him?
Is he a...
I agree that sponsors are not councilors or therapists, they are broken humans doing their best to live the best they can in the confines of their experience. However, 12 step here is very hush hush on any outside issues that aren't conformed to traditional values. I am a non...
I am so sorry to hear this is happening. I had a lot to say and many questions but I think maybe pure sympathy for your position is what you are asking for not advice. If you need something please pm me and I will offer what support I can as an outside who is poly longterm. Know that your...