Recent content by greenchild90

Progress will be slow, since this latest blowout with our mutual friends has only happened in the last few days. I sent him an e-mail with a link to this thread & he's read part of it. He agrees that it's wise to step back, "try to be friends" and see how things play out. It's difficult to make...

Well, see the gray area here for me & him is that while we might be/have been lovers, we were also friends, so I always had an open ear for him whenever he was upset. I still keep an open mind, & try to think about her side of the story, how she might be feeling - in other words, we don't sit on...

All very good advice which I will try to adhere to, as I agree with all of it. As a note to the last bit of your response, I am actually the youngest. My friend is going to be 24 in a couple of months, and he is 29, soon to be 30 in September. So... he should be the more mature one out of we...

I should add that I do not necessarily need a monogamous relationship with him, should we ever end up together. I am perfectly fine with seeing him a couple times a week, and having alone time, or time with friends, or even time with another included partner the rest of the week. I respect that...

Well, as far as I know from what both of them have individually vented to me (not assumptions), she is not comfortable with him being "poly", and he is not comfortable with giving up his "poly" lifestyle. However, both of them are clinging to whatever relationship & commitment they have, and...

I know that my friend is monogamous. She has extreme jealousy with the idea of sharing a partner. She does not even like it if I cuddle with him on the couch watching a movie. She considers that "physical intimacy". He has told me that every partner that he has had in his life, he still loves...

I can't tell you how grateful I am for this sound, calm advice. It means... so much to me. I'm on the verge of tears because it's caused me to look even deeper into myself & as I continue to do so I know I'll find the answer, of what is truly important for me, and all other parties involved...

I just joined this forum because I don't know where else to go for advice... I know in my heart that what I'm doing right now is being "the other woman", and in the worst way. I don't know what words I'm looking for... The one I love is with my best friend. He claims to be polyamorous and she...