Recent content by Gunnar

I choose to leave because the advice given to me has given me answers to many of my questions and I don't think digging any deeper or asking follow up questions would be of any use. Especially not since some of you also seem annoyed by the fact I started another thread in the hopes that the new...

Yes it would. I realize this now. But the sex thing is only one of the things I'm fighting against. As I said previously, her long time dream is to live on a farm with cows, chickens, sheep etc. She hates living in an apartment. Really HATES it. And then he enters our lives.. very similar to...

I'm sorry I might have shared too much in my very first post but I wanted to paint the picture complete and I believe sex is a factor in most relationships, much like love, humor, intelligence, looks, interests etc. Also, I was in quite some pain when I wrote it and I simply listed all the...

What I want? To have knowledge what I can and can't expect. For me to know that, I need to know what poly means and what it can do for me. As someone with no knowledge at all about these kinds of relationship, I was hoping for your advice. It's as simple as that.

I have 0% knowledge of polyamorism. I have 0% knowledge of what others might think about it. A month ago was the first time I ever heard about it when she claimed to me that she had discovered she was poly. Where do you think I would go first to find some answers? Of course to the #1 forum...

Not sure exactly what she wants with me except that she doesn't want to break up with me. Since I am not cuckold I have serious problems with being demoted from A to B. But my question was real: Can a former A survive being demoted to B, assuming he is not a cuckold or self abusive or something?

Can a monogamous relationship between two married people be anything else but A and A?

Assume a healthy relationship between a man and a woman. It's monogamous and they are happy together. The love between them are strong, they are recently married and neither have ever cheated on the other etc. They have been in love for many years, are the best of friends, lovers and very close...

Why would I hate a person because he is in love with my wife and my wife has fallen in love with him? Sure, I hate the SITUATION but there's nothing fundamentally wrong with him really. If I look at all this objectively (which I try), then it's easy to see he is a nice guy and I can understand...

I guess I'm giving up on this forum now. I came her expecting open minded people capable of giving good advice and some of you have proven to be just that and I'm grateful to you. However you others that disbelieve everything I've written I do have some things to say before I leave: 1...

Yes... but not slowly. It feels like it's going pretty fast. At least from my point of view. The thing is: I just can't understand why she wants this so much when she can see it hurts us so much. She has never been an egoistic person before but I can't help feeling she is willing to risk...

I have three choices: 1. Accept it and try to do the best of it. Result: I will still have my wife in my life but I will have to share her with someone she finds more exciting and attractive in HIS home, which will make me the B-relationship. 2. Tell her she can't continue with him: Result...

I don't get it. Why does it sound like a story? I can prove every single thing about it. I have hundreds of photos of my wife together with me. I have photos of the farmer. I have photos of the farmer with my wife, I have photos he has taken of her. I have photos of HIM taking photos of HER. I...

Well, I do live in Sweden so my name is not that strange. English is my second language so I say thank you for that ;-) Not quite correct but pretty close. My relationship was already down the drain at that time and we were actually not even living together anymore. Her relationship had...

Oh, I wish I was cuckold. This would have been so much easier that way. She's told me: Her wish is to have both of us living at his home. That we should move there already this fall and that I should start explaining to my kids that their step-mom has another man besides their father now, that...