Recent content by handknit

Oh yeah, I've definitely got to work on how I try to get her to communicate with me. Unfortunately "why" is my very favorite question ;) And I do think it brings out her stubborn side. I'm not very good with words in general so it can be frustrating to know that such phrasing makes a difference...

Hi all! Sorry to leave you all hanging a bit---the last week and a half have been a bit of a rollercoaster, emotionally. I met with Q and told her that I would step back from the relationship with Z if she would agree to examine and maybe work on getting past her unease at him getting involved...

Hmm. This is interesting, especially as I've been considering my own identity recently. I'm not sure I'd consider myself poly, although at this particular point I am in a poly relationship and in love with two people. But I don't feel that my life would be lacking or unfulfilled if I were to be...

Haha! It is really not helping that the letters that I chose are nowhere near their actual initials. I think maybe we do have a different approach to things; I'm finding it useful to talk about how I feel with her, and share it, and process and dissect it until I understand from a rational...

I absolutely agree with you, sagency, re: no ultimatums. I don't like them and honestly I feel like we can work through nearly anything if we all try. I'm female :) but I do think that plays a part, maybe more so than if I were a man. I mean, I think she understands my desire for a male...

You're right, I probably am being a little too harsh on her. She did mention during one of the discussions I prompted that while she was unsure about it in the beginning she thought she could handle it and work through it, which is why she didn't bring it up. Unfortunately now I am hurting and...

So he and I should just let our emotional connection go because she wants both of us to want only her? I'm really not sure I could handle that without, as I said above, becoming jealous and resentful of her. I want him in my life just as much as I want her. And I still don't think it would fix...

Hi folks! I've been lurking and reading here a lot and learning all sorts of useful things, but now I'm in a bit of a crisis and I was hoping for some advice or perhaps some perspective. (With apologies for the long post!) About eight months ago I got involved with a woman with a boyfriend. The...