Recent content by heartdoodler

"Happiness" at this point is a compromise. I have found over the last few years, that life is about compromise. Michael and Jason are both talking and communicating with me. Jason more about this poly situation and what he is comfortable with, what he is uncomfortable with, etc. He has been...

Guess, when I talk about the "Rule" I am simply trying to understand other's experiences and the ways of making my relationships "healthy." I do find the irony in my relationship with Michael being seen as unhealthy though. Not sure what makes it unhealthy, and what would make any other...

I appreciate that Marcus. My family would wholeheartedly agree with you. That he is allowing his family to run his life in this way. He is a grown man. But, I also understand his viewpoint in that he loves his family and does not want to disown them because of their simple-mindedness. We have...

Agreed, and I have. This might be helpful... not sure it will help you relate to the story and further... but, might be helpful context. Michael is Chinese (only male child) and I am a black female. Michael's family does not accept me, and he does not want to be disowned from his family. We...

Hi Marcus, I appreciate your perspective. However, I would say, this is all very individual. Some people, and I have met many, do not have the capacity for multiple love. In a way, I have always considered myself open-minded, and so I knew that I would have this capacity, but never thought I...

GL... you did read my mind. you got it all right... struggling, and will take this one minute at a time. thanks for all the advice! Since I learned about it, I always thought poly was a way you were born... not something you fall into. I do love Jason and Michael. They will both have me, so...

Yes, some are calling me selfish... read the threads :). I understand why. I'm not sure I could continue dating Jason if he were dating someone else. I definitely know there is no way I would accept dating Michael if he is with someone else. Yes, that IS selfish. But, like I told Jason... it...

...the selfish me... For all intents and purposes... I still see myself as mono. Fine, I don't have to put a label on it, as obviously, I am not mono. I am in love with two men, and asking them both to have a relationship with me. Am I poly? I guess. Do I relate to the open-mindedness obviously...

I am just going into this blind. I know they were even more blindsided than me! So, I don't know if it will work. I am just giving them kudos for even attempting to try this with me. To see if I can be happy with them, and them happy sharing me. I want to communicate, but I don't want to...

I won't go into all of the details. I never even considered myself Poly. I fell in love with two men, who offer me greatly what I need in my life. I am selfish, I want both of them. We were all mono. Now, I am asking them to be in a Poly'ish (I guess), life with me. They don't have to meet. They...