Recent content by helendione

I’m not doing anything with them yet. I don’t intend to just have them as “goof around palls” either. I don’t think I work that way. I don’t consider people tickyboxes either. But I can’t have the sort of relationship I want with them- I can’t go on holiday with them, or meet up regularly, or...

Hmm, I'm not sure I would do it in a monogamous relationship. I'd only start a serious monogamous relationship if I knew they ticked enough boxes for me to commit to them. I then wouldn't break up with them to be with someone else - rather - I'd break up with them because it wasn't working out...

Not necessarily though. If the other people who arrived were also poly, then I'd be happy to continue the relationship with the less ideal ones (at least practically, not neccesarily romantically), and I'd then no longer be looking for anything monogamous. But yes, they'd have to be aware that...

I certainly would fill them in with the details in due course. I wouldn't make it short term relationship though.

Yes, that is what I'm saying.

I do know what I want. I want a serious relationship which will lead to moving in, getting to know eachother really well, supporting eachother in everything (which might involve having other partners). Neither of these can offer that, but they can offer me the experience of a relationship...

I know because they've told me. I haven't told them I'm thinking about dating both of them, because the first I last spoke to before I met the other guy (he's rarely available to even message) and the other one I've only spoken to on a dating site, but he told me if we start dating he's...

I've been open to poly for a while now, and while I can see myself as happy in a monogamous relationship, I could also see myself as happy in a poly arangement. Recently I've been given the opportunity to date some poly people. I wouldn't normally consider them as mono partners (one is so busy...

Hi nycindi, Thanks for the awesome reply, really helpful! I met this guy with his girlfriend and have got to know her rather well - she's really awesome and I'm really looking forward to getting to know her more. She's pretty similar to me personality wise. Yeah, I guess I'm making a...

Has anyone done this? I've been single for quite a while, and having met and chatted with polly people, I've gradually become very fond of the idea. All the people I've talked to already had primary partners though, and I always thought it felt a little one-sided if I become a secondary...