Recent content by Here4thevibes247

I understand what you mean about stepping back. I tend to bulldoze when it comes to new relationships and I don’t want to repeat the pattern with this one. As for the oversharing, I wanted to ease his pain by listening, and he did ask for my advice. He apologised for talking about her. But...

It is, isn’t it? I’ve been in monogamous relationships since forever, and I know it’s not for me. Where ENM/poly is concerned, I’m still learning where it plays a part. I know I want to seek other meaningful connections, but not a romantic one with another, other than my current partner Needy...

Adding a side note: as I mentioned, he's asked for space for the week, until Monday. My anxious self is now thinking: oh, what if he still meets up with her on Sunday? I want to be able to detach myself from the worry. This is his choice and issue to deal with. I’m not here to fix it, but to...

Oh, and I have told him he needs to remove her completely. I see it as nothing wrong with having that feeling of wanting to get back together because you miss them around. But when she has been very adamant it’s not going to happen, he’s stuck between moving on and establishing a healthy...

Thank so much, everyone, for the wonderful advice. ☺️ Some things I should have mentioned: • She broke up with him in August • We are each others first polyamory/ENM partner/relationship • We are both only seeing each other since our breakups • We’ve established that we will not be solo dating...

Hello! I am new here and to poly/ENM. I’ve been seeing my current partner for a little over five months now. His primary broke up with him a month after my own did with me. So we both have heartbreak, but the difference is, I didn’t love my primary, whilst my partner loved his. I deal with...