Recent content by Holly

The session seemed to go very well Thursday. My husband opened up a lot. The therapist explained how you could love two people and how they bring you different joy and that is doesn't take away from the other person. He seemed to get it...then Friday my husband and I had a wonderful night...

I am new to this too and don't plan to tell my Mom or many family members...but maybe you and she could do counseling. Our counselor has been wonderful with my husband. A few sessions and maybe even reading a book on the subject could help her. Sorry this happened.

Thank you for the links. Halcyeus-I agree, he is very hurt about losing this other woman and he is only now letting on how much. We meet with the counselor tonight, so I am going to bring this up, because I think it is important in moving further that he deals with this so he isn;t irrational.

No we are just seeing one to guide us through this type of marriage. He is not sleeping with her. I see how it reads like that, I meant he has gone on a few dates with another woman, not the marriage counselor. I edited it and fixed it.

Hi, My name is Holly and I am 43 years old. I am new to this lifestyle. I have been married to my husband for 12 years and with him for 16. We have been monogamous for 16 years and then this past Sept. decided to swap for a night with a couple I had known for years(ex lover and his partner). I...