Recent content by hoorayjeebus

I feel I should share my experiences here. This board and a few others were very helpful when my wife and I were attempting to transition to poly. Unfortunately, like so many others' stories, our conversations happened after cheating was involved. For that and many other reasons, the attempt to...

Although it sounds like C and Mrs C may be incompatible, I think the real problem is their relationship simply deteriorated. "Poly" was just a side issue I think. It's possible the relationship could have survived with more work, but who can say? She drew a line in the sand, and they didn't get...

My thoughts are with you. Best of luck.

Bangel, I've glad you've found a forum with so many supportive people. I am also a mono husband who has had difficulty dealing with my wife's poly inclinations. (but the other guy wasn't living upstairs...yikes!) I don't have much more advice to give you about your relationship. It sounds...

I'm going to jump in here. I agree that this looks suspicious. If the husband wants to keep his freedom to see other people, but take away his wife's, then that would definitely point to some selfish motive. I'm assuming that the husband is also willing to "give up" other people, but I didn't...

Ugh. I wrote a huge reply and when I hit "send", got a login screen instead! So I'm just going to rehash my take on everything quickly. 1) Lack of communication - not your fault, not his fault. See this as a learning experience to communicate in more detail, more explicitly, before next time...

I think that would work *excellently*....yum

I agree with the previous posters. Poly won't fix any of your problems. In fact, it will highlight and magnify everything that is wrong with your relationship. If you feel your relationship has gone flat and you need love, then work on getting that love and energy within your relationship first...

I'd agree with Cheesehead. My own intro to poly came in much a similar fashion, and it ended up in two months of constant fighting, anxiety, sorrow, etc. Only after my wife ended her relationship with her alternate and "came down" to my level was I able to quiet myself down and really try to...

I'm new to this board too, but I've been on another poly related board for awhile which has helped me. Your situation sounds similar to my own and to a lot of others' here; where what began as a bedroom fantasy ended up spilling out into real life. Based (only) on what you are saying, it...