Recent content by hsun

Thank you, Shaya. I read thru most of the links and actually found them to be very insightful. I'm definitely working through some issues in feeling insecure and jealous. I forget that I have control over the way I feel and suppose it gets the best of me at times.

She's agreed to meet with me! I didn't really know what to expect but I'm so relieved that she said yes... now I'm struggling to figure out what I'd even like to say or do. Thank you all for feedback.. I'm a bit exhausted emotionally otherwise I'd directly respond but I've taken all comments...

He constantly talks about how he has always been seen as the guy that people use for emotional support and tells me that I'm the only person that he's willing to do that for. I think he's willing to let her take advantage of something that he clearly needs to work on because he wants to sleep...

When you meet up with her next, bring up the poly dynamic and look for more advice from her... ask about her policies on seeing friends. From there you can at least insinuate interest.. you can always say "I'd like to pursue these feelings I have for you but I understand if our circumstances...

Ah, you responded to my last post! This is the same girl... just a separate issue that's sort of been resolved (he won't plan an overnight until I feel more comfortable and secure. You're right... I suppose it is envy. I've been trying to get in better shape and they do a lot of active things...

Im feeling weird about her because I think that she is just using him for emotional support and maybe doesn't have the right intentions? She recently got divorced from her husband who cheated on her so it's understandable to want company / support... but yes I think it mostly has to do with her...

I feel like that's a little unfair... I'm not "sizing her up..." I'm hoping that by meeting her I can get to know her and possibly see what my partner sees. But I guess I shouldn't get upset about it until I know the answer.. I guess I feel like if I chose to start seeing someone in a...

In a bit of a predicament... my partner has been seeing a women once every couple of week for a few months now. He's never seen anyone long term like this and I'll admit to having trouble adjusting to it... I think because it's more intimate than his past relationships (they haven't slept...

I think that you may be right and that's why it's been so hard... However, we've talked about it and he tells me that nothing can replace what we have, that what we have is special and not comparable to any other connection he has. I don't think that he's in love with her... but he has been very...

I do find myself feeling like I do a lot of the work in the house but I know that he does stuff during the day. We're hoping he'll get this job that he interviewed for recently. We had a great talk last night and agreed to have him come home after being with someone for at least a few weeks so...

I guess him asking me for something like this feels like he's telling me it will happen, even though that's not the case (just my insecurities). I've calmed down a bit since last night but still feel upset. We will talk about it more later today. I've explained this to him but it seems he...

We already talked about it a bit. When he brought it up, I was having something similar to a panic attack. He could see that and wanted me to calm down but also was upset that he couldn't bring something like that up without me getting upset. I like the idea of an open relationship but he's...

My partner and I have been together for 3 years. For most of our relationship, we've been navigating an open relationship. We both have reasons for having it this way but sadly it's been feeling rocky lately. We have ground rules in place but are still learning about new ones and forgoing old...