Recent content by hylierandom

I'm sorry you too have landmines in your head. Sucks to run into one. I find breathing meditation practice to be VERY useful -when panic attacks occur, I sit and focus on my breathing until they go away. ...I mean to do a painting of a tree used for a living fencepost, there's a number of...

When one's partner tells you for years that you are being hurtful to them, and tells you exactly what you are doing that's hurtful...but you do not understand why it is hurtful...are you justified in continuing to hurt your partner? It was something she could control easily, that she was asked...

For the record, I am not a "normal" neurotypical, by any stretch. I'm a lot more prone to take criticism of something I have done as a negative affirmation of my general ability to do anything, for instance.

This is off-topic to the other thread I started...but some of the responses seemed to require a response, I guess? (mods, move it if it needs moved, please...) People seem to suggest I needed to heal...Yeah....spot on...Totally agreed...I do need to heal. Annnnd...I've been in and out of...

...I did not mean that as any slight against Asperger's people in general... But one of the noted tendencies of people with Asperger's is to accentuate flaws in things... So she was just a veritable fountain of everything I did wrong. To her this was being helpful... She was unable to hear...

...Again, it's been a month since we started seeing each other. :( Probably right though, I need to move on. I'm not shacking up with ANYBODY. Sod that, I'll never willingly live with another person again.

Thank y'all for taking the time to examine this in excruciating detail. ...I DO remember saying I didn't want seriousness... ...I seem to be getting seriousness anyway. Dirtclustit: Right... Ok. So I need to figure out what I want. Right. So I need to know how to communicate respect to her...

Less than 100% clear. She apparently skimmed an email and freaked...A.D.D We both have it, hers is worse. She's feeling VERY unsettled right now, very afraid of being abandoned, and I'm thinking that she sees polyamory as some sort of indication I'm unserious. I would be the first poly person...

My lady and I are just getting off the ground...I met her online. Before I met her I said that I was not willing to be monogamous, that I would see others, that I was willing to just be her friend if she was not okay with this. ...She said she was willing to go forward under those...

thanks... The more I butt up against it, the demand of being able to have others, preferably others who are NOT just casual sexual partners, but real and meaningful "significant others"...the right for me to seek this feels like a "hard boundary." As in the right to do it isn't something I am...

What do you do when you've found someone who says they are ok with you having others...but really are not? Do you take them at their word? I am JUST getting out of a marriage. I am just starting with a lovely woman...who's giving me signs that make me think she's very NOT ok with...what I told...