Recent content by IanNairobi

One of the more effective self-checks that I've been employing lately is to maintain a much greater awareness of when I'm mentally playing the tape forward when thinking about certain events/situations, and forcing myself to recognize when I'm making predictions about the future based on...

Honesty and disclosure... Something in redpepper's post jumped out at me and prompted me to chime in, because this is something I'm having issues with in my own relationships: "Also how does one balance between "I don't want to hear about it" and the need to be honest? I am stumped on this...

Sometimes things fall into place My wife M and I have essentially fallen into a quad-type relationship without any intention of doing so. We met the other couple while we were together, we all clicked and had a great time hanging out, and we ended up getting to socialize with them without even...

Immaterial, I really appreciated reading your initial post on this thread (comments too, or course). I felt like much of it was a succinct and cogent description of what I currently struggle with myself. While it's been a fairly long process for my wife and I to emerge into an actively poly...

Norwester, you sound exactly like my wife. I can empathize with your husband considerably; when she first explained to me that she wanted to seriously pursue a relationship with another man, I was not interested in any other women and did not imagine that I had any prospects of any kind anyway...

Practical Polyamory Magdlyn, I'm brand new here and your link was one of the first things I looked at, and I proceeded to print off several articles that led to some great discussions at home. Thanks! :)

Hello, I'm Ian Nairobi. I live in Michigan. I've been married for over four years, and with my wife for over ten. It's been a good partnership, but not always an easy one. My wife respects and loves me, but has for years felt unsatisfied and discontented with our monogamous relationship...