Recent content by Indigomontoya

Well it's been a while....I have been focused on my marriage with TP to the exclusion of poly, and to be honest that's the way I like it. While I might come back and make a go of looking for another partner for myself, right now I am very content to be another monogamous arm in the V that is TP...

No, you don't have polyamory here, just bad monogamy... Your husband doesn't respect you or your needs. He's emotionally abusing you to get what he wants. He's a bully, and he will be a bully as long as you allow him to behave like that.

I have to echo both Red and NYC, Read a few of the blogs, or just browse the forum. That will give you a definite idea of what you need to know. As for "Poly Families" you need to define that more, or like I said read the forum and then maybe try and ask for a particular segment's input...

So it's been a couple of weeks since Mr. A moved into our house. We (TP and I, though probably Mr. A as well) aren't sure how long he will be staying. As it stands the move really was painless...really couldn't ask for much more than that. No real complaints about Mr. A or TP, even the...

Not really Neon, it was more I had to finish putting my thoughts into font and couldn't be bothered to find that. But thank you for posting it. I was also looking for a specific third party article that I referenced.

It's been said in other threads with posters asking for help, but that's really just bad monogamy, not polyamory. aren't we all? It's not strange at all, and when I read this it actually crystallized what you are trying to say about your own views on monogamy. But I would venture to say that...

Not at all. I have a very good female friend with which I spend a lot of time, and I don't think it is a supposition to say that TP has ever been jealous, and I have brought up with this friend how her fiancée feels about our friendship and have asked him directly; both answers (to preclude him...

Thanks Ton, You're right about making it easier since my mum without skipping a beat said he's welcome at family dinners; eventually I will have to come out to them, so having a good preexisting relationship with my family will go along way to how they react.

So had a great Canada Day with TP and Mr. A; we ended up at my parents like the last few years. Their cul d'sac always puts on a potluck BBQ. We didnt give much of a backstory to Mr. A other than he is our friend and down visiting, my parents did meet him at our wedding so it wasn't completely...

Points taken, I apologize for my tone. I guess the tone triggered me as I have a brother who has a constant overbearing nature. I can understand what you mean here but I think there's a certain dysfunction in your model. Ultimately monogamy and polyamory take communication; and I would say...

So after reading your post I have a few thoughts: 1. You're doing nothing wrong and you should not feel guilty for doing what you do. If she has issues with you doing other people's weddings, it's her issues and not something you need to feel you caused. 2. As for her hurt, she is lashing out...

It's not your word choice I object to, it's your contention that there's an almost adversarial relationship between a monogamous partner and a polyamorous partner. I have never been told that TP cannot spend time with me because she's out with someone else; likewise she has never told her...

Well it's been a while, so here's the update. Blood tests o'plenty and the results: a healthy range for testosterone is between 2.8 and 19.4; I registered at 4.1. So I'm producing testosterone but not a lot, but enough to exclude any chance of hormone therapy. But the brighter side is that the...

It's true. She's more like a hypnotist than a succubus...possibly some kind of psychic vampire...or a Jedi with mind tricks.... But in all seriousness I find the concept that confusion can be associated with "making someone share you." to be fully specious. I'm not being made to share TP; Poly...

So I might be getting a little brother?? AWESOME