Recent content by InquiringOne

A couple of things. Most religions, and many spiritual teachings, are not pro-sex, to say the least. So the fact that he says that he is having a "spiritual budding" and that he is seeing something in his sexual life as "wrong" is not a far stretch. He probably cares about you, but the...

Hyper, You are a very smart individual. I am not practicing poly (yet), have two children, and a wife, and understand what you are saying about struggling with how much time could be taken away from those obligations by the introduction of possible other love interests. I love to play...

Hyper, I think others are able to practice the beautiful vision with consent and boundless love, even if it might be slightly more rare than not. And your single example, as unfortunate and sad as it is, does not define everyone's practice. You should know this too. Best of luck to you.

hang in there Hi Lilac, I hope you feel better soon. I agree with Sparkle who said that giving them space is the right thing to do. Even the offer of it, if they turn you down lets them know you care enough to put them first and not yourself which can go a long way. If you are lonely maybe...

I think people tend to ask for forgiveness in much heavier situations or when they feel they've committed graver wrongs. But I don't see them as essentially different. I'm not sure if that is my catholic-cultural background coming through or if that's more widespread.

This has been a fascinating thread for me to read, both from the OP's standpoint and from the advice given. I don't think I'm quite as far along the spectrum as Halcyon on how much it affects me physically, but I literally just wrote an email today telling someone how much i can't stand going...

keep going! WokeUp, Hope things are going as well as can be expected under the circumstances. My parents had to go from Michigan to Minnesota for my sister's treatments. Usually one parent had to stay home and work while the other stayed for the week with her. So the family was literally torn...

It's going to be hard, but you are going to have to learn to be alone in a healthy way for yourself. I'm sure you hoped that your husband would take the impetus to change from your ultimatum (please correct me if I misunderstand that's what it was you gave him), rather than choose to leave. I...

Hi, My condolences to you on your losses and this boy's battle. My sister died after a 5-year battle with cancer. She was only 19. Your feelings are entirely normal. There's not much great advice as everyone needs to deal with these things at their own pace and in their own way. But I'll try...

Those were great things to hear LIL. I was worried it wouldn't be so good after your previous post. And that will be good practical advice to help a lot of other people to address their issues. I'm glad things are taking a clear turn for the better for you.

Stay positive Sin! You're doing great. And you should celebrate your accomplishments. Half the people never even recognize hey need to change. You've taken concrete steps toward it and are now about to reap the benefits of making yourself a better person. Congratulations!:)

nycindie I did hesitate to use the term "community" because I realize that there are wide variations everywhere, but it's a quicker construction to say "poly community" than saying "all of the people who identify themselves as being poly." Sorry if I threw you off there :)

I don't think you can over-share in this situation. Silence is what keeps these predators in business. The more it's discussed how unacceptable it is, the fewer people will help to enable it or cover it up. I'm not saying that is what your aunt is doing, but it's better to be overprotective of...

Hi, Thanks again to everyone for commenting Objectively, I think you are entirely correct, I just think it is far easier said than done for most people. do you have any concrete ways to help get them past those things? or what happens when one partner has let go of those fantasies but the...

Hi, First of all, thanks for all of the replies. I appreciate all of your thoughts, stories, and ideas. One clarification on my part, and then I will respond to some of the individual points brought up. I did not mean to argue that poly people should just accept cheaters as friends or...