I actually don't believe in hierarchy at all. But I may need to compromise for M. I know P won't be happy to be secondary, but I also know she will to keep me in her life. It's not an ideal situation at all.
I am not proud, but I slept with my ex and lied to my partner about it.
I (M34) started seeing my current and only partner 'M' (F42) 2 years ago while openly polyam with two partners. Both of those relationships ended and about a year ago M and I started seeing each other exclusively out of...