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Newbie - "We have talked about things extensively, it just doesn't seem to get us anywhere." I'm sorry for your pain. One thought that might help you is to think about how much courage and trust it took your fiance to talk to you in the first place. I don't think you are undervaluing this...

*Tears* @Magdyln -- yes, there are definite similarities in the dating world you just described. He is playing the field way more than I even have the time, energy or desire to try. But, I'd appreciate the consideration of talking to me a bit. I don't need details, but trust me to handle the...

I really am trying to understand -- maybe I don't need to understand, but only accept.

@Kevin - I don't think his wife knows about him seeking out others. I think one thing that I have realized while thinking through these thoughts is that BF and I have a very different approach (and experience, frankly) to sexuality. I have been with only two people -- including him. So his...

Oh my gosh! Thank you all for such thoughtful and helpful responses! I am grateful to have found this message board and grateful that there are people, like y'all, who are mindful about their emotions and relationships and willing to share! I will say that all of your responses made me...

Kevin - thank you for your kind thoughts. All of very much on point. I appreciate the space to talk about this without judgment. Funny thing is, I've never thought my husband wasn't enough. I think one thing that makes it hard too is that I don't necessarily feel like I have an open space...

I've been in an open relationship for 3.5 years. I have been seeing the same man outside of my marriage. About 6 months ago, I found out my bf was seeking out additional relationships/sex via online dating. I was pretty devastated but I took a step back and did some work and talking and...