Recent content by Jeambo

Sorry for the wrong advice! My intention is very simple. If I want something, then I fight for it. I read the replies you've made to others. I don't understand why Sage can have overnights but you don't. It seems that Bass just don't want to do that. Still best wishes for you!

Congratulations for your progress! I was the hinge in a semi-hidden poly setup. My ex was the long-term, or "primary" partner, and he didn't want to meet any of my poly lovers. It was mainly about jealousy. I didn't want to lose him, so I compromised. Seems a similar story, but we never do...

When he says 40%, how much time is the 100%? maybe the night is not included in the 100% from the beginning... Could you spend a night together at his home with Mulie and the kids? I mean you may sleep alone (on the sofa or somewhere else in their house) but you do have a share night at a...

Basically, yes. But it needs a lot of mutual understandings and compromises. If you don't compromise with each other, the communication would be ineffective. After compromises you would live a new life that you never expected before, and so would she. It could be a little bit uncomfortable...

You're confused because you know both options have their pros and cons, and they are incompatible, yet you still want the best parts of both without any downsides. My advice is to bravely choose one path and commit to it, and let go of the other. I'm also poly while in a monogamous...

Other replies are so great that I feel I have no more advice to give. Just to give some personal perspective here... As a male poly person, I did almost all of those thing that your husband did, to my ex-partner (except the threesome thing, but we did go swinging with another couple). We had...

I hate it too when I have to explain what poly is to a friend who just can't understand... Most people just use their old language to talk about poly, like, "I see, cheating is allowed in your relationship," or "You feel no jealousy just because you don't love him ENOUGH." Luckily now we can...

My story is a similar one, just with roles swapped. I hope it will help. When I came out about poly to my ex-partner he crumpled too. Some background: Our relationship was essentially a marriage, we've been lovers for almost a decade, and live under the same roof for five years. Everyone...

My last relationship lasted 10 years, 3 yrs mono + 4 yrs OR + 3 yrs poly (since when I finally knew the idea of poly). In fact it's not ten yet. It's nine and three quarters years. We had a lot of talk about whether to break up or not, and finally decide to do it before the ten year...

That's the point. Dating apps are designed for those people's demand (fast romance, fast sex, etc.) Maybe it will help if you write clearly about your needs on your profile. But the final solution, I think, is to slow down. Get more friends, and observe if there are any opportunity. It's all...

The *benefit* in FWB referred to sexual relationship, precisely, when it was coined. You can expand its definition, but it may cause confusion when you talk to others, so remember to clarify your idea about it. :) It's totally OK to date ONLY people whom you are "physically" attracted to...

The phrase "central ac" was not made for poly, it was originally used to describe people (mainly male) who show affection to every potential partner. The phrase is disapproving, like "casanova" or "playboy". But I think we can reclaim it :cool:because I really think it's totally OK if I show...

I googled it, it's from Percy. I didn't know he's poly too! I really admired Percy when I was in high school because he looks just like that kind of boy that I'm into. More admiration now... In China we learn little of English literature. All I knew about Percy Shelley is "If winter comes can...

Thank you! I love the Shelley quote in your signature!

Hello my "lao xiang"! I only know that there are some blogs and podcasts (on comprehensive sex, love and relationship topics) talked about poly sometimes, but there are no KOLs or online community about poly. There was a "polyam_bot" on Weibo but it stopped updating on 2023. To get to know mind...