Recent content by joedad85

Last night, my wife said that she was willing to give polyamory a try and that she trusted me to not abandon her. So, time for first steps into a new world. I think that taking things slowly is the best way to proceed so she can see that she doesn't need to be afraid of someone replacing her...

We've been married 21 years and have two children, a 20 year old daughter and an 18 year old son; neither live with us (empty nesters, yay!). This has been something I've struggled with, and suppressed, for many years. At first I thought that I was just being a sinful person (my fundamentalist...

Thank you again for your input and for reminding me that I shouldn't try to take responsibility for my wife's feelings. I have a lot to learn and I think the process isn't always going to be easy or pleasant.

Initiating a conversation about polyamory when in a monogamous relationship definitely opens everything up for discussion! I don't know where we will end up but this is forcing us to really look at where we are at in our lives and what we want for the future. If nothing else, I think we both...

First of all, thank you to everyone that has responded. Just having other people willing to share their thoughts and encouragement has been immensely helpful. I’ve had a couple of conversations with my wife (I’m going to adopt convention here and call her D) over the past few days and am now...

@vanille I am in complete agreement with you, but my wife doesn't share that opinion. She is convinced that I will find someone to take her place. @OpenMan Thank you for your kind words of encouragement. I feel sick to my stomach now, after talking to my wife but the conversation needed to...

Maybe writing this will help me process my thoughts and emotions… Tonight I told my wife that ideally I would have more than one love in my life. She took it surprisingly well and even managed to make a joke, something along the lines of “You mean I get to have two men now?” Later, she said...

I'm an agnostic atheist, currently attending a Unitarian Universalist church.