Jojo Autumn

I'm a currently single, bi-gender person, assigned female at birth. I have more feminine energies than masculine whilst expressing both.
My pronouns are: they/them

I'm happy to connect with others on the site for friendship and/or for beyond friendship territories. I'm also open to online only connections, for friendship or for whatever we mutually agree on. (I like a good online flirtation too.)

I like spirituality, mindfulness/meditation, fashion, nature, history, some movies (non-violent ones), healthy eating, healthy living. I've always liked to try and understand human behaviour and I studied Social Sciences/Psychology. As time goes by, I find myself specifically interested in sexual psychology.

From a young age I have been captivated by stories, fictive or real, where somebody had multiple partners, especially those on a consensual basis.
As an adult, I came to understand and accept that I don't believe that a person can be owned in any way by another, even like the 'my spouse', 'my life partner', 'my other half' approaches. I feel that to me the more wholesome way is deeply connecting with each other and supporting, encouraging each other but without the titles and owning type of approaches that usually come with relationships.

I also often feel that the concept of two people merging all their living space, resources, connections and plans, hoping that the other person won't change too much as so they can stay together the longer, is outdated. It somehow doesn't feel modern enough for me
I think that as humans we were and are called to an existence of constant change, the more and deeper the better, and I see that as beautiful, though it means others might leave our circles over time. I'm okay with that.

Listening to people's life stories, I often think that a lot of wonderful friendships are potentially missing out on healthy romantic/sexual dimensions being added to them because one or both members are already in a monogamous relationship. I personally don't fathom why disclosed and mutually accepted non-monogamy is still a taboo thing in society or why it is considered to be a less high morale, less ethical or less valid thing than forms of monogamy. Hmm.

My journey took me some time to activate as I was surrounded by a lot of adults who would rather cling on to a sort of 'victim mindset' in unhappy or restrictive long term partnerships, no matter the price emotionally or mental health wise. Rather than considering any other option.

Studying psychology helped me understand how early and how effectively the monogamous conditioning starts in a typical child's life, along with tying the meaning of loyalty to only monogamous relationships, also.
Which, to me, puts sexuality to a kind of 'function' category, as of: either it is the means to keep a monogamous union last as long as possible no matter how different the partners become over time, or to be the secret side hassle with a third person for someone in a long term monogamous commitment when they no longer access it with the partner/spouse to the level they want to.

Now, closer to 40, I feel that I'm able to embrace my own way of thinking easier. I still believe in the soulmate concept but now more like: multiple lives/incarnations and multiple soulmates also within the same lifetime as a possibility. I came to recognize the many many (and many more...) layers of my soul and existence, and so to me it seems more logical that there can be multiple soulmates coming my way depending on which side or aspect of me needs a growth in wisdom.

I also had some really important people in my story that I was in love with deeply and, frankly, I would struggle to pick 'The One' since they all contributed to my learning and self-expression in major ways. So, I would say that I already encountered soulmates and I'm open for more

I'm not interested in engaging with existing couples, i.e. the 'couple looking for' type ads or in kitchen table arrangements.
Solo poly here

However, I am happy to be an online-only connection for those in poly group arrangements.


My Discord is: https://discord.gg/eMhXhFhRWJ

Love,
Jojo






Love,

Jojo


PS: I kind of came to the conclusion that my only 'real', 'true' and '100 percent authentic' partner is... Me That's because I know Me pretty well LoL, I always stand by my side, am available for chats and cuddles for Me 24/7 and I never cease to surprise and amuse my self even after all these years

pronouns: they/them

Multiple lives, multiple soulmates ♡₊˚ ・₊✧𐦍