Recent content by jsimili

Anyone read Franklin Veaux's post on Quora/Slate a few days ago? Does Pornography Harm Sexual Libido?

Interesting. I guess it is possible. If you don't mind me asking, if a guy comes up and talks to you in one of those scenarios, what's makes him somebody you'd agree to date versus a guy who creeps you out or irritates you while you're just going about your business? That is, what advice would...

Probably a good idea to cultivate some new interests, but it's hard to do now with little money. I do chat to people between classes but that's pretty much limited to people who are in my classes, so doesn't count as meeting new people really (and my classes are quite small postgraduate classes...

Sorry for the delay between posts. I agree that it's not necessary to drink, I just think it's working against me. I have pretty much been in college for the last decade (the things it takes to get a PhD these days). For the most part, I don't find people to date (not sure if question was...

I mean the link seemed broken. The fifth link from the top in this post, specifically. I don't even know what I'd ask though. I've been single my entire life, I have only dated a couple of women, I've tried using OKCupid and Tinder (the former for 4 years, the latter for 1.5, but neither has...

I did my search, and I did find the Master Thread on the Golden Nuggets section, but the link to the book recommendations sticky in the first post of that thread didn't work for me. I appear to have overlooked another thread in that forum section though. Thanks.

No, I don't mean I want to date book (though I do love books) :p But rather, are there any good books on dating that are poly compatible? I quite like reading poly literature, especially More Than Two. But most of them seem to target people who are already in a relationship, and if they touch...

I don't know if that's beside the point. I think I agree with you. Which means, people who I would actually be interested in wouldn't really see any problem. I absolutely care about my friend's feelings, and this was my first concern. I'd never want to do anything to hurt her. But she's an...

I see the possibility of falling in love with my friend, but I just don't think we'd be right for each other. I never said that I wanted to be in a polyamorous situation ever, or that I wanted to sleep with both concurrently. All I wanted to know was whether having a physical relationship with...

Indeed, I think it all boils down to this. Obviously jealousy is unavoidable, so trying to avoid it at all costs is stupid. But that doesn't mean we should also ignore how our actions make other people feel. I guess the right course of action is somewhere in the middle. So, somehow I need to...

Thank you everyone for the greetings, and for the continued discussion! :) I had considered it, but I find it unlikely. I think though that my friend might find it more likely, as she used to have quite the crush on me a few years back and I don't know if those feelings ever went away. Which...

Thanks for the kind welcoming! Took me a second to realise you meant appealing! We did discuss this, and it was to be the case that we'd go back to being just friends if one of us started dating. The worry is that it may become a source of tension/jealousy if we continue a friendship with a...

Hi everyone, I'm a 27 year old guy from the land down under. I'm single, so not in a poly relationship and to be honest I have no idea if I even want one. I heard about polyamory a few years back, and I love how much it forces me to think! Even if I never end up in a polyamorous relationship...