Recent content by JuliaGay

Dear Dale, Thank you. Julie

Hiya, NYC. Thank you for the kind words. :) My life for the last several months has been crazy. I'm an officer for a very small non-profit which has been dealing with a series of disasters -- embezzlement by our (former) treasurer, the retirement of our office manager and the failure of the...

Thanks, Aurora. Those are the things we are working toward. It's good to have confirmation that we're doing the right thing. :) JG

In the beginning, maybe. But we were together 12 years...by year, say, 3, you'd think he would have gotten a clue. :) JG

I agree...I soooooo wanted them to at least consider poly.....

There's always space for new social networking and dating sites. But I'm pretty happy with PolyMatchMaker.com as a dating site. I've found a couple of partners that way. Have you taken a look at it? JG

I get it, River. :) That's it EXACTLY for me. My long distance ex used to ask me what I wanted to do when I went to visit him. And I would answer "be with you." He wanted to plan elaborate outings and I just wanted to be together. I love the sense of anticipation and desire you have. JG

Hi, Joy, :) What you wrote is very clear. Don't be so hard on yourself. :) I think the last line of your post is the crux of your situation. Have you considered going to individual counseling? I think this would be a great way to help you sort out what you really want. And keep posting...

Thank you for sharing your side of things, Baron. While I understand wanting to keep your commitment, I can see that you are both deeply unhappy and unfulfilled. I'm wondering why you stay together when it seems to me that separating could give you both the freedom find what you are looking...

Hi, Seyscouple and welcome. You might want to search here for 'unicorns.' That's the poly slang for what you're looking for and, as the name implies, it's very hard to find. For one thing, it's very hard to fit into an existing couple's structure. I'm not saying that it doesn't happen, just...

Hi, purplelotus, :) I'm glad you're willing to explore this with your guy and that you're here. :) I am married and two of my other partners are as well. My husband also has a partner who is married. For me, it works because of compersion. The I define compersion as taking joy from my...

I love them both! Thanks, IA and TP. :) JG

Wow, AuroraWD. I'm so impressed by your insights into yourself and your ability to express them. Thank you for your posts. They've helped me understand my OSO's wife's meltdown a little better. :) I think you're doing well and you'll find your way out of this. JG

Well, I had a big response all ready to go when Firefox decided to crash. :( Hopefully that doesn't happen this time.... I, too, had a horrible childhood. But those circumstances were not related to my sexual orientation. The journey I took to heal those wounds was vastly different from the one...

Well put, River. I have tried to explain this before and not done nearly so well as you have here. Thank you.