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    Rule has been broken... What to do?

    I think he is scared of testing positive because this indiscretion might have bitten him in the ass. Hell, I'm scared for him to retest because of the possibility that it comes back positive. Scared that this mistake on his part could ultimately change the dynamic of our relationship.
  2. J

    Rule has been broken... What to do?

    I agree It was a poor choice of wording on my part but the discussions we had while discussing the “girlfriend” was obvious that I meant someone who he could sleep with while I’m away, not leaving me during a face to face conversation to text her and when asked about it, lying. He knew in his...
  3. J

    Rule has been broken... What to do?

    He knew what I meant when I said to get a girlfriend, it was very specific in getting someone when I’m not around. And quite frankly I find a woman who literally lied about everything she said and willing to bareback a stranger after 2 hours not girlfriend material. I would not allow that and he...
  4. J

    Rule has been broken... What to do?

    Marcus! That's a very great point. In all honesty, I can't answer that. I don't know why he felt that he couldn't be honest other than me being mad about it. I would like to believe that we can be honest and open about anything, boy was I wrong. Do we have disagreements, yes, but so does every...
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    Rule has been broken... What to do?

    I don't want to make excuses for him because I wasn't involved in any of his thought processes regarding this entire situation. From speaking to him, he thought it was acceptable because that's what you do with boyfriends/girlfriends. I don't agree with it but that was his stated reason. He's...
  6. J

    Rule has been broken... What to do?

    Thanks for all of your help. This is more a one time incident. I mean he’s had safe sex with other individuals that I was aware about before and after it happened. I’m ok with safe sex, I’m not ok with someone making a unilateral decision that could affect my health. It was a huge deal breaker...
  7. J

    Rule has been broken... What to do?

    I have tried this. I tried it last night while laying in bed with him. I got sad and started sobbing uncontrollably. It isn’t fair to him to have to hold me because my mind run wild. He’s a kick ass dad who loves our daughter and me with every bone he has. It’s easy to push out the negative...
  8. J

    Rule has been broken... What to do?

    He agreed to the rules but I guess it's my fault that I didn't clarify. I've had previous trauma in regards to STD's before. I was cheated on when I was younger and didn't know, ended up catching 2 different treatable infections. Which is why I am so adamant on safe sex. He claimed he asked...
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    Rule has been broken... What to do?

    we do have a 10 year old daughter. Been together 11 years and married 9 years. After finding out about this indiscretion I insisted on a STD panel, we fought over that but he finally went. I went as well. He flagged high for hsv igM. He will need to retest at end of June for igG antibodies. I do...
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    Rule has been broken... What to do?

    I don't know where else to look for information regarding this situation I have found myself in. My husband and I have talked about opening our relationship up. We've set rules (or so I thought) about what is acceptable. (my exact rules were "wrap your shit up" and "don't bring that shit...
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