Recent content by justascientist

An important goal for me isn't legislative but a change in mindset about poly being somewhat respectable. Right now, it isn't. On facebook, where I learn all I know playing farmville 24/7, I saw a picture of a guy in mid air falling onto concrete to his death because he was gay. That is a...

The way movements work is that only a tiny fraction of the people agreeing with the movement do the hard work. Afterwards, more enjoy the benefits and those originally opposing the movement become silent. So poly is a movement even if you don't this likely fact.

Alright. I'm quoting you since KC43 said you expressed her opinion best. Reading all the above posts, I think there are a few outstanding disagreements. The disagreement is my words and Norwegianpoly vs. the view that poly includes asexual relationships, as expressed above by you, YouAreHere...

That is nice of you to say. Despite your near apology, I was still almost banned (because I think asexual polys are weird and I disagreed with a poly saying it isn't about sex), and besides my party there was only one non-obese female under 60 and over 18 at a poly event we recently attended...

Yes that's the exact question I face. All the contributors in this and the other thread I've posted in have helped me make a decision, but I'm not ready to make the decision yet. Sadly, viorels never answered my question. That is the intel I really need. RainyGrlJenny, your comments suggest...

No. Martyrs do what hurts them for the greater good and the future. It is not usually to the individual's benefit to protest, for instance, since they could be jailed. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeffrey_Miller Jeffrey Miller is the usual example I give but one could say the same of Dr...

Yeah, that's the thing, it probably isn't to anyone's benefit to come out. I think it is the hard choice to make for the greater good and for the future. About facebook? Well, look, it is the main place people publicly could put that up. Nothing else comes close. There is an option for...

What I put in bold isn't what I just how feel, it also pure logical reasoning and indisputable facts. Consider, today is Martin Luther King Day. This is about classic minority persecution. Today, gays can marry. Before, they could not. Why? A lot of pain and good people. Today, most...

Like I originally wrote, I am thinking of "coming out" on facebook, and don't want to make a huge mistake. I want to get a feel for what most polys do and don't do. The poll has already told me that most polys don't do what I am thinking of doing, and has also confirmed that I will be attacked...

Yes, I think exactly that viorels is indeed somewhat being a crusader, in that (s)he was willing to take the risk you won't, and I applaud her(him) for doing that. IMO it is a real risk, exactly for all the reasons you mentioned, and especially for you given your occupation. You aren't being a...

KC43, I actually don't mind being a little but offensive, since it can lead to progress sometimes. Anyway, you say I'm wrong because your daughter is a normal asexual poly. Ok. Except she is underaged, so it is illegal for her to be sexual, so it would be illegal for the converse to be true...

So long as the NSA knows your situation, you're good.;)

I saw the 1st open vote and wondered who it was. Thanks for much for taking the time to share your story. Nice to see someone with some balls around here. Would you please share the mocking remarks so that I know what I would be getting? Were the mocking remarks in private chat or visible to...

Look at the earlier posts in this thread. The average person hates on polys. The Christmas story (woman wants to come out and have Christmas with two people, ends up being alone), story of woman explaining poly to her mom only to be ostracized, etc. The horror stories about coming out go on...

Based on the poll thus far, it sounds like it is easier to be openly gay than openly open. Wow. That sounds really more complicated than just putting "In an open relationship" Thanks for much for your interesting reply.