Recent content by jxb

I do need to be firmer with my boundaries, I up until recently was very poor at setting them and enforcing them so it's easy to slip back into people pleasing mode. We actually just discussed today the idea of therapy and a check in (*trumpet sounds*) so I will share this RADAR model with him...

This all makes a lot of sense. ENM, LGBTQ+ relationships on top of other factors & compatibilities can really limit the dating pool available to me. This, on top of my capacity & pace has really put my dating experience so far into perspective. I'll just have to give it a little more time.

Thank you so much for saying that. I wanted poly in the first place. I thought long & hard before I broached the topic in the first place & really wanted it to have a place in my life. This entire situation has made me feel discouraged & that I'm not cut out for it. I do feel like these issues...

Is it? Well that's good to know. I thought maybe I was just broken lol.

Thank you for providing some more resources & for your insights. He is a workaholic, but that's because he works a day job to pay the bills & then his passion project on the side of a 40 hour week, one that he's trying to make fulltime down the line. He has gotten more efficient at managing his...

Thank you Kevin, I'm not sure what the answer is either. I only know I can't keep feeling like this forever. This thread has been super helpful for resources and reassurance that therapy or something else may be needed though.

I have gone on dates & made a few connections with women! None have turned into long term romantic connections, unfortunately, at this point, but it's been really nice to get to nurture this side of me. I'm pretty bad at dating and I have a very small social battery, so talking to and pursuing...

To clarify so the bulk of the replies aren't about my intimacy issues, I opened up my relationship to explore connections with women, something I'd wanted for a while, not to satiate a lack of sex. I didn't even know he had a libido to speak of until he started dating this girl - and because we...

We have not read the poly hell article, though I much appreciate you linking it! I read up on a couple best practices for practicing polyamory, and read about having boundaries set in place to start, jealousy is normal and to be communicated, and some other basic poly informationals, like term...

This may be a long one as it's been almost a year of confusion & trying to navigate a dynamic I feel I was rushed into. For backstory, I prompted my fiance 9 months ago about potentially opening up into a poly relationship - I'm bisexual, have never explored sapphic connections & my partner is...