Recent content by Katastr0ph1k

Very true, Idlewild, in regards to using or not using clergy. I personally would want someone to perform it for us, but that's my preference (and perhaps not the Wifey's or Hubs). We'd want to still have the party (food, music, dancing, mingling), but none of our families beyond our kids would...

So, out of curiosity (hence, the reviving of this old thread), how many of you here have attending a Handfasting? And have any of you attending a Handfasting, or even heard of one, where more than one person was handfasted at the same time? Traditionally, it is usually one-on-one. Wifey and I...

How do others do it? Example; the Wifey had a bunch of medical appointments, two days in a row. Hubs went with her the first day. She had to change all her emergency contacts because they still had her deceased husband listed (it's been a year and a half since he passed). When asked what her...

Today will be the first implementation of the big changes heading our way. Hubs is currently at the airport retrieving Wifey's son. He's staying with us temporarily. I'm currently taking a break from making curtains out of bed sheets to hang in what will be "his" space (I'm sewing button holes...

I concur. If you try and make S and J scarce, it's going to become your burden, and this is not your issue. It is hers. As quoted, if she wants to bury her head in the sand, she'll figure out her own way of doing that. You don't need to enable her. Nor should you act as if you are ashamed of...

How odd.... I semi-grew up in Lancaster Co. My Dad and Stepmother still go to church in Lititz. I lived in Lititz, Ephrata, Akron, Columbia, and then Lancaster itself before moving to Pottstown (Montgomery Co, where my Dad lives). And now I live in Washington, north of Seattle.

Like you, Psyche, I have a few friends I'm openly Poly with, but I have not come out to my family (minus one nephew, who's just awesome). It has nothing to do with the stability of my relationship (which has been rocky in the past and my family was privy to), but rather my comfort with my...

I had an OKC profile for a while (technically, still do) but I never actually met a single new person on there. Reconnected with an old FWB, but the one date we did go on, I could tell nothing had changed with him and it was a total waste of time. I'm the same. I like my relationships to...

I struggled with this too - seeing my value and contribution to the family is terms other than "I don't earn a paycheck", and not even in a Poly relationship! The role of the (mostly) stay-at-home-parent/spouse can be challenging. But the contributions the stay-at-home person brings are rather...

Yeah, that's what all the research said but we saw Betta's in tanks. Both males and females and they were doing just fine. We had friends that had a Betta in a tank and it did fine. We've tried turning down the current on our filter and it was a no-go, so we'll just fix the issue and probably...

OP, just like any other website, it's a mixed bag. Hubs found someone through a website (not OKC) and they had a relationship for well over a year. They're still friends. I think it's all in what you make it and you really do have to do a lot of searching yourself. Can't just rely on the OKC...

Reiyth, I am so sorry for what you're going through. I had a huge falling out with my mother (not related to sexuality or the like in any way, though) and our relationship has never been the same. I have not "come out" to my family yet, and I don't know if I ever will (they don't live close...

Meeting Others How do some of you meet potential romantic partners? I live in what's considered a "poly-friendly" area, meaning the region overall, really. But my actual immediate area isn't quite so. I dislike dating sites, but kind of feel it's the only option. I like to meet people and have...

I have a friend across the pond that is very much how you've described yourself. She doesn't necessarily consider herself Poly (though I would), but she's very comfortable with herself, her hyper-sexuality, her self-worth yet doesn't connect well with women who appear or are promiscuous. She's...

Hubs already works long hours, and she has not found a job here yet, so much of that is still up in the air. There are never any threesomes, sex is always one-on-one for me, even when it's not my husband. I've tried a group thing once before and it was most definitely not my bag. We have talked...