Recent content by katharinerose

A note on vaginas: cervices (AKA, the end of the vaginal canal) move. A lot. Some parts of my cycle, my cervix is only a couple inches in, if that. Around ovulation, I have to try really, really hard to reach it, and sometimes can't (and I have long fingers). When they get bumped they tend to...

I keep thinking of poly as being new for me, and new for C & my relationship, but in some ways it isn't. Back before we were married and for the year or so after, we had a good friend, T. We first met him when he was a overly-smart 16 y.o. kid attending college with another of our friends...

I wanted to throw my perspective as someone who fights daily to be viewed as married to my love. That piece of paper and that ceremony matters hugely. Actually, we have/had two of each. A social/spiritual marriage, a legal marriage, and a domestic partnership. Before we were married the...

I'm with classycaveman, well, minus the genital mutilation (so glad I wasn't born with a penis on that one). And I'm not only poly but a masochist as well...go figure.

So I've gone for just jumping in. I have a coffee/possibly dinner date on Thursday. C has been good-naturedly teasing me about this, and even chatting with him online. :D The guy seems really nice and is in a poly relationship which feels a little more comfortable for me at the moment...

I have know help, but just wanted to say that you're not alone. I'm having the same problem right now. My wife is being awesome and fabulous and supportive and downright happy for me....And I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop.

How was everyone's UU experience this weekend? Mine was interesting. People were very, very, very friendly. Like, almost scary friendly. And there were name tags. Coming from a very reserved New England congregation, it was a nice surprise. I spent two years at my church in MA, even was a...

I'd like to have somewhere to chronicle/process this new and rather scary journey, and this seems a good place. Insight from those who've been there are welcome. One of the things I've loved about my and C's relationship from the beginning is that we have been comfortable and open discussing...

Yes, yes and yes to everything people have said above. A few other things that have really helped me when I've felt gross and ugly and can't imagine why anyone would want to touch me: Appreciate your good features, and put some effort into showing them off. Do you have great hands or cute toes...

I'm not really a believer, nor am I a fan of labels. I was raised Episcopalian, went to Catholic elementary schools, and realized somewhere along the way that the miracles that form the basis of the story of Jesus and creation and much of the rest of the bible were, well, logically impossible...

I'm glad I found this thread! I'm UU, and leaving my church in MA was the one thing that made me really sad about moving back to WA recently, even though I was never officially a member. I didn't know there was any sort of poly presence, though it doesn't surprise me that there would be! I've...

Interesting site with some pretty charts and graphs: http://www.avert.org/stdstatisticusa.htm I had no idea chlamydia had been increasing so much!

Thanks for this! STIs have been the biggest fear for my wife in our conversations. She spent a lot of time in college doing HIV testing at a needle exchange and at one point wanted to go into HIV/AIDS research, so she's read many, many scary things and seems to fear that the moment one of us...

Where to start.... I married my first girlfriend, C over 5 years ago, and we've been together since 2001. I love her more than anything, and she's the person I want have kids and grow old with. At the same time, I feel like I'm missing something. Back before and in the year after the...