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  1. KayFin

    Physical descriptions

    I am tall, somewhat thin and blond with blue eyes.... Yes I am stereotypical scandinavian blonde (even though Finland is really not part of scandinavia ) Abt 6' (184cm) and (if I calculated the conversion right 160 lbs (73kg) quite long hair presently, just below my shoulder blades.... Been...
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    And I'm the one who is supposed to know how to do this...

    Welcome dear, and thank you :)
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    Any finns lurking around

    Hey, beacuse of international forum I stick with english in this post. I just am curious are here any finns around here. Kay
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    Vent....

    I am a sub myself and to me the D/s dynamic is all about trust and honesty. My thought are with you, and what I think of him and his way of behaving is not proper to post. hang in there and remember, without trust there is no consensual and sane BDSM relationships Kay
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    43 yo newbie from Finland ;-)

    A short bio of our setup Well I guess it might be a good idea to tell how I became a part of a poly family. I am Kay, lesbian divorced woman with children who live with my ex-wife (we have joint custody) I was not really looking for a relationship, my luck with women had been very bad and I...
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    of my insecurity

    to me wenting it all out in here has helped a lot... thank you all for the much needed and appreciated input in this. I will keep you posted as there is future developments
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    of my insecurity

    Being able to deal with them is half a victory (but ofcourse I want full victory), and though I know it will be a rough ride at times I do trust my partner to help me. (only problem is that at times I find it hard to accept help) But I do know that it will be fine, honestly I do, we are all...
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    of my insecurity

    And Kevin, no ofcourse not.... exept being me I need to try to be perfect, flaws in me are not acceptable *joke*
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    of my insecurity

    Thank you for the input. I am kind of practical in this, I listed the pros and cons of this (looking things from solely my own perspective) and in the end there are more weight in the pros side... They both do know of my fears and insecurities, but I did say it clearly to the both of them that...
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    of my insecurity

    And the saga continues..... Well my emotions have been in a rollercoaster ride, I had a long talk with my partner and then with my friend. Basically telling them both that I am ok with their relationship what ever it may be in future. Told both of them that I do have insecurities and fears but...
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    of my insecurity

    Quick update, They had a date yesterday, no melt down on my side. We had a short online discussion after their date ( I was not home last night due my children) and I told her about my insecurity and that I do not want my problem limit her. She once again told that she can pull back (from the...
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    Just not into husband's girlfriend

    I almost got my G&T on the computer screen too! I am in a poly relationship that has always been a poly relationship, my soon-to-be-wife was with her BF already when we had our first date and he knew of our date... Anyhow, me and her BF are on good terms even though there is nothing...
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    of my insecurity

    Well, I have controlled my own insecurity quite well this wknd, and actually I am just sitting back and letting things take their own course.... I feel that had I talked to my partner about my insecurity she would have pulled back just not to hurt me... And i really do not want to limit her. So...
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    Why do you use the online name that you use?

    I got the nickname Kay from my friends in U.S. and Fin... well I am a finn so it covers that, actually I did decide not to use my FetLife nick in here even though i did think of that too
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    of my insecurity

    Thank you, My friend is not one to steal a partner but thing I fear is that if we end up having relationship with the same person it might bring out our competetiveness in a very disrupting way. Worst case scenario: breaking romantic relations and a long friendship as things are now, I will...
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