Recent content by KayleeFrye

I appreciate the advice. I haven't been on the dating sites non-stop or anything, I have taken breaks intermittently over the past year, and I do try to socialize. I live in a rural area, which makes it hard to meet new people at social gatherings

I've been working on this for a long while. I don't know if I'll ever overcome it completely. (At least part of it is a symptom of one or more of the multiple mental illnesses I have, so I doubt I can just make it go away by working hard enough at it.) But I don't think that means I'm not worthy...

I have, yeah. It seems like everyone I'm interested in on dating sites has no interest in me.

This is honestly the best advice ever. If I followed this, I'd save myself a lot of heartache agonizing over whether someone's interested or not.

I was friends with a couple and found out they were polyamorous and looking for a third. I was attracted to them and intrigued by the concept, so I did a shit-ton of research because that's what I do when something catches my interest. LOL After reading a lot about it, I felt like it was...

Hey all, I guess I just need a place to vent. Hope this is the right part of the forum for this... I tried polyamory a little over a year ago and loved it and decided I never wanted to go back to monogamous relationships. However, the relationships I had then ended, and now I've been single...

That's fair, and probably good advice. Just hard to do when I miss them so much. Also, I worry that might be a bit like playing mind games, which I don't want to do...

If someone breaks up with you because they basically say the timing is wrong but they say they still love you and want to still be friends... But then they hardly make any effort to talk to you for the next month... Is it safe to conclude that they didn't really mean it when they said they still...

Thanks PinkPig and Kevin for the advice on counselors. starlight1, that sounds like great advice, but I have no idea how to do either of those things - fix things inside myself or build a stable community. I've tried and failed at both so many times. How would you go about starting to do those...

Thank you, Kevin. Do you have any tips for finding a poly-friendly counselor? Living in the Bible Belt, I think most around here probably aren't.

I've only been poly for about a month. I joined the forum when we started talking about dating. I have been looking through the forums and learning what I can, and I intend to continue doing so. But it doesn't make sense to me that you seem to be advising me against asking questions in my own...

I'm not trying to make my unpleasant feelings go away. I know that takes time. In the meantime, I just want to be able to function in my daily life and not do/say anything that will push the ones I love further away from me. That's all I'm asking. That's what I'm struggling with and wanted...

I already agreed with the previous commenter who said I shouldn't say "I'm bad at breakups." I'm not "throwing up my hands," though, and I don't see what the problem with asking advice is. Isn't that what this forum is for? If I had "solutions within myself," this wouldn't even be an issue...

Okay, you may have a point there. So how do you suggest I go about getting better at dealing with breakups?

Well I appreciate the empathy and knowing someone else has been through this before. No contact for 40 days isn't feasible because we regularly hang out with the same group of friends. (I'm not open about being poly, or else I could just explain it to the rest of our friends so they could...