Recent content by Kemie

It seems as if there is a pattern: I find a suitable secondary and integrate them into my life. This time it was really nice: Wolfwood and Russo got along really well; they were friends. Secondary and I get extremely attached and fall in love. Things are lovely for awhile with everyone happy...

Thanks everyone; especially to your response StarTeddy. It has some definite similarities to my situation. And yes, Wolf has been supportive. I'm just not sure how to handle this, I guess. One step at a time.

Dammit now I'm crying again.

Last night Legs came over to my place and told me that he "couldn't do this anymore." 1. He talked about being unable to handle me having any form of casual sex (I swing with Wolf, but had previously agreed not to have an 1-on-1 contact with anyone except for Legs or Wolf). 2. He also talked...

Thanks, RP. Normally, I would be spending the evening with Wolf; but, given the specific event that we're attending occurs once a month, it's not too out of character for Legs and I to be together. I figured at the end of the night will go home with Legs and I will go with Wolf. Legs wants me...

Meeting a metamour So Legs has a new shiny- an LDR that I'll call X. It's his first attempt at delving into poly after being so adamantly mono since we met. She's also entirely new to the situation; we've chatted on facebook a bit and she has asked me a lot of questions. It's about time for...

Hey Browneyes, I was the poly in a mono/poly relationship until my mono boyfriend opened up to another girl. It was obviously very difficult for him. I feel like you're working really hard and doing really well. You should be proud of yourself. Just remember: you are extremely important to your...

Anne, you're probably right. Legs does not separate sex from love in his mind. I'm sure he would be even more concerned if a more serious relationship developed with someone else. I will ask him what he thinks the real issue is; and if he doesn't know, then I'll try to help him figure it out.

Thanks for the perspective km34, I know that Legs couldn't possibly feel like his request is arbitrary, so it's good to hear reasons why he thinks it's important. Casual sex sort of IS a hobby/pastime; whether it's with Wolf or not. The danger of said hobby wasn't brought up at all in the...

Background: I occasionally (say a couple times a month perhaps) seek extracurricular dates with new men. Sometimes I choose to sleep with them; sometimes not. Sometimes I see them again; sometimes not. Legs and Wolf of course know about this arrangement. Wolf does similar things, but generally...

As an example: Boundaries are necessary in any relationship, but they seem to relax as the relationship goes on. I've found that the more rules there are, and the more specific those rules are, the more strain is placed on the relationship. I prefer to have as few boundaries as possible, but...

So I love when people share their stories like this, and I finally get to write one. This past weekend could have been horrible. I had to move AND I was sick. But instead, it was amazing because I got to spend all of Saturday with Legs and Wolf TOGETHER. Everyone was talking to each other and...

Yeah, I have the "soft DADT" with Legs. He knows generally what goes on with Wolf, and in the past he's usually known when I go out on dates with other men (because I confirm the actual evening/night I'll be gone with him.) But recently, he asked me to close my one-on-one sexual encounters to...

NYCindie and bastet and definitely on to something- the puppy-pile post-coital cuddling does wonders for my swinging lifestyle. I absolutely demand that there only be one bed involved when I swing, so couples can't "run away" from each other. I don't like separate swinging or "swaps;" I like...

Anne and DH: Okay so to get rid of the hypothetical, Legs- who I can see Sunday evenings through Saturday mornings, has an entirely open schedule. He does work, but he makes his own hours and doesn't have to take time off or PTO or anything like that. He often spends the weekends on trips. If...