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The idea fascinated me for any ways, however it was clear that there was no way in my relationship to even consider it seriously. Until my wife fell in love ...

Great. I like this approach very much. The ones feeling jealousy are in need of help. However they need to accept that they have to work and taking the help, not just the others have to stop everything that makes the jealous ones feel that way.

I could bet, that this is just an explanation that seems plausible. Do you know of any facts or studies that support this substantially?

Many people living that way imply this - as most people assume there livestyle is better than those of otheres - the very reason they chose it, right? Then people thinking a bit deeper recognize the asymmetry in this style of thinking and stigmatize it as arrogant (like in this...

Is Polymory more evolved? This is worth a seperate thread I think, so I started it.

Hi, thanks for your advices. After reading them it enforced my previous opinion that waiting a while is probably a good idea. My wife really tries to keep her attention up for me but you can see how she is drawn to her new lover. When he starts speaking her focus is with him. I probably would...

Sounds a bit desperate. The answer to that question will not be possible without taking this area (brain science) out of the question. You have your ratio, your associative brain, your ancient brain stem and also your limibic/hormonal system. All four parts play a major role in this quetion. If...

We have read a lot about how important it is for a partner being on NRE with a new relation not to neglect their other relationships because it is is often difficult for the ones that depend on the old relation to see how much attention the new partner gets. They - if they are doing it right -...

Yes and no. Being worried is indeed perfectly normal. However, before I threaten to my partner to take the kids away, I need much much more than some worries. I nearly need proof. I need to see that it is indeed affecting them in a bad way - being in a way worse then losing the mother. His not...

;-) It's five on my view ;-) Anyway. The topics seems to be a classic. Additionaly - Overcoming insecurities is not like learning piano. It's really tough - as I can see very well on myself - and a lifelong task. It won't get much better in just some weeks. But he needs improvements rather...

Hi Danielsen, I think, you have given the answer yourself already. Look at it like you would look at a couple in your neighbourhood. If you see something you like to have yourself try to implement it. It might not fit to your relation though. But don't try to make the two relations equal...

LOL. That reminds to my wife, though she was the one starting with another man. In the process of opening up she needed to give me also the freedom to find other relationships. I didn't act on it yet, but nevertheless after a few weeks she was somehow scared and asked me how many women I am...

Hi Journey, be sure, I am feeling very sorry for you. Live shouldn't punish people just for loving. But loving women drives men crazy since thousends of years. And only just recently women strive to get rid of the bounds that have put around them to make them 'behave'. Your husband still is...

First of all: you have indeed already two rules, and these are not lightweight ones a) other relationships have to be secondary b) relationships have to be with women only Not wanting to hurt you is only an excuse for not wanting to get accounted for his actions. This poor sharing of him is no...

Yeah, we have some forum members here with a wonderful sex drive. Definitely. However, the story of my wife goes a bit different: In the long years of our marriage we often had sex once every fortnight. Now, with two partners, she has sex about every two days. Given the rough estimations this is...