Recent content by KnowThyDirection

If you're looking to polyamory because you're having problems in your current relationship, you may want to reconsider. Would you honestly want to explore your feelings for this other guy if things were going well in your current relationship? It's also important to remember that finding someone...

Here is an update on how things turned out... I decided to call things off with this woman. I needed more from her than she was able to give. She said she half-heartedly attempted to negotiate the boundaries of the relationship with her fiancé so that I could have more space in her life, and...

Bluebird, I did very recently fill her in on where I'm at (since I first posted this thread). My understanding is that she needs to find time to sit with herself, reflect, and figure out what it is she wants. I don't think she really knows right now, and she's afraid to make any decisions when...

No, I would not be okay with this long-term. I could probably find a way to deal with it for a while by dating other women and looking for a primary partner. But if things continue emotionally in the way they are now between us, I don't see how we could possibly last under the current...

Before anyone starts acting with authority on my relationship and telling me what I'm supposed to do comma remember that I came here for emotional support. She claims that he knows she needs some kind of emotional connection with whoever she is sleeping with. when I asked her if he really...

I am confident he knows she has sex with me, and he knows what I do for a living. When her and I first got together, I saw his dating profile online beside hers, and they both stated they were new to trying an open relationship. He never found anyone, but she found me. They have both since taken...

Thanks, Kevin. I agree that her dumping him would really, really suck! I know she feels the same. They do have issues. If she leaves him, it really would have to be for reasons other than me. I keep encouraging her to work on herself in their relationship, potentially seek counseling, and to...

Thank you so much for these helpful responses and resources. I can't even tell you how reassuring it is to me. It helps to know I'm not alone in some of the issues I'm struggling with. I do think a discussion is in order with her next time I see her. One thing I've realized is that I do want...

That's a good idea. What about feeling excluded from her life? Am I supposed to just suck it up and deal with it? Does a secondary partner still have some partner rights? I hope that part of my dilemma came through in my original post.

Hey everyone, this is my first post, and I'm really glad to learn that this place exists. I've dabbled on and off with polyamory for a handful of years. Right now, this is my third and most serious attempt at it. I've been seeing an engaged woman for a few months. Her very busy fiancé, bless...