Recent content by ladyjools

ok this thread makes my brain explode lol!

her reading this would def be useful, i don't like being given a curfew so i can relate to her point of view, however i also understand first couple of dates with a new partner checking in at least seems like a good idea, when i went on first date with R i made sure to text C and tell him...

I agree that other peoples attatudes is a downside. I try not to care what people think but there are times when someone has said something really hurtful, iv been called a whore lots since coming out, and greedy and iv had people not respect my relationships and see them as casual when infact...

What do you think they are, i think i often go on about how great it is, and it is great for me but everything has some bad points, my issue mainly Time, (not having enough of it) and how compliated it can get to manage it. Jools

I wanted to add here, that what i feel for each of my partners is unique and diffrent so i can honestly turn around to R and say that "I have never felt this way about anyone before" becuase i mean it, even if i am in love with C what i feel for them both is so diffrent, didn't someone make...

i agree with everyone else, if it doesn't feel right you need to have enough respect for yourself to say no, if he loves you and she respects and care about you like they should then this should not be something you are made to do, Jools

lovingradiance can i quote some of what you said here in my blog? i love your check list :) i wasn't meaning to ask you what you would do if someone asked you about the kids question obviously they wouldn't its just that i see that i get asked this a lot myself and i was more pondering over...

I'm writing my latest blog on this and thought id see what you guys had to say, the most common question i get asked in regards to polyamory is Don't you get jelous? How do you deal with Jelousy? Isn't one enough? Where does everyone sleep? What will you do when you have kids? im sure there...

i will answer this from my personnal situation, i asked him to open up and be poly because i realised that i could not imagine spending my life monogomous, i was not willing to sacrafice that part of myself and i was willing to give up a romantic relationship with him if it meant i had to do...

For me it isn't about what is enough or who meets all my needs, you could ask the same question about a couple who choose to have more than one child, you could say how many mothers out there would have a second child if the first met all there needs, and does that make any sense? When you...

I didn't have time to read what everyone else has said so only skimmed through but wanted to let you know that I can understand what you mean in regards to the issues around the past i have some very serious abuse in my past and it can be really difficult for me to trust someone sexually, it...

I think a lot of the negative remarks about monogomy come after monogomous people try to ram there view point that what we are doing is wrong down our throut, i hear it over and over again and sometimes every so often i want to scream at them that they are all wrong and im right, na na na...

We are out with everyone we know, and I mean everyone, from my gran to the people I work with. It has not been easy, but at same time, it does have its rewards. I feel far more free knowing that everyone knows and I'm not trying to keep it a secret like it's something I should be ashamed of. I...

this sounds like my worse nightmare i totally understand where you are coming from. It feels like he is trying to smother who you are and i find that hard to understand considering you where poly from the start and are continuing to be honest with him you really need to find out why he feels...

I'd love my own room, but at the moment we can't afford a bigger place. We have a 2 and half bedroom flat. The half bedroom is so small you can't fit a bed in it, so we use it as a study. Chris and Rick both have their rooms, and so when I'm not with them they get time alone. It's not exactly...