Recent content by LadyMonterey

I've been following your thread Gingerlocks as it sounds familiar to me. You don't have to give him an ultimatum. In fact, that will most likely result in shutting down any communication. Why not approach it as revisiting your agreement? I have to do this periodically whenever I hear or...

I just wanted to say that knowing who you are & what you want is an asset & shows strength of character. Not molding yourself around those you date also shows strength of character. I went back to dating last September. I hadn't dated since I met my ex in 1977. After my divorce 2 years...

How often do you see your secondary partners? I guess I was taking the 'time to myself' for granted. I live alone & have no kids to take care of, but I have a lot of things that keep me busy & that is an attraction for those who also have busy lives. It's the first thing I say when I'm...

How often do you see your secondary partners? Hi surfer All 3 of us have busy lives & we live & work in different parts of town. We all want that independence. I was seeing my primary once a week which, after awhile, scared him (fear of commitment). So he distanced himself. When I noticed...

Religious Survey Interesting reading. I had to go back to the original question before answering: "Someone recently said to me that he thought all poly people were pagans or athiests." Most of the pagans I've met are monogamous. I have only started meeting anyone referring to themselves as...

Compersion & how it is derived I hadn't looked at the definition of voyeurism Slip. Thanks for the reference. Interesting. I seem to recall seeing the term 'erotic voyeurism' from an interviewee who used it to describe how she was turned on thinking of her boyfriend being with his other lady...

Compersion and how it is derived Hi. I hope you don't mind Peachtaboo if I jump in here & ask an additional question to the more experienced members. I've also been wondering about 'compersion' & found the answers helpful. But I'm wondering if there is a difference between 'compersion' & the...

I love the answers. Very creative. I had a choice of using the one from a Pagan site I frequent or the one from the on-line dating service. I chose the latter where I found a few friends who are poly & that's where I found my present lovers. Lady is in connection to the Goddess & Monterey is...

Thanks otter & idealist. "Emotional strength" ... yeah, that's a little shaky. I wasn't expecting to fall for someone as soon as I returned dating but I did. The connection is overwhelming. And then to find another man who finds my candidness refreshing & such a relief! Wow! They know about...

Good morning I thought I should introduce myself. I registered this morning in need to connect. I ended a 32 year monogamous common-law marriage approximately 2 years ago. In my time of re-evaluation, I started to think about the things I had set aside way back & polyamory was one of them...