Recent content by Lane

One step at a time.

Agreed. When I get angry I can't seem to use proper "I" statements that own my feelings. I never intend to blame anyone, but I do because of how accustomed I am to that style of communication. It takes really careful thought to change that in the heat of the moment, and I am still struggling...

These aren't communication methods, just passive aggressive ways of getting what you want, or teaching your partner a lesson. Personally I find this approach somewhat mean and not very effective. Perhaps I'm just young and naive, but I'd rather not strand my partner on the toilet. Also, we...

Hell if I know. Just wondering if they had a different question in mind than the one that got answered.

Most of this has been about sleeping so far, not about sex, but that was the first part of your question. What'd you want to know about poly sex? Or was it really the sleeping arrangements you wanted to talk about?

Thanks! I think its safe to generalize that Poly people love talking!

Depending on where you live, if you are looking for poly people you probably don't need to do this. At least in Philly there are quite a few people with it stated in their profile. I have it all over mine so that anyone interested knows what they are stepping into (very happily partnered)...

Ha ha Yeah... at least according to my partner :P

I'll chime in and add another positive review of OKC. I've found a lot of poly minded folks in my new town and its been great for making some new friends. My partner has a lot of luck with it too it seems. While there are some obnoxious guys on the site, I've been very pleasantly surprised...

Hey there! So this is something I have been trying to do when I am upset with my partner, but even though I think I understand the concept I apparently don't execute it well. Often when I think I am expressing myself clearly my partner says I am using "you" statements. I'm sure he's right...

Hey there! So I'm young, bi, genderqueer, female bodied, and poly. I'm partnered these days to a similarly bi, genderqueer, and poly individual (male bodied). It was so amazing to us both how easily we agreed on a totally poly relationship, and we are very happy together. We both have other...