Recent content by laughingowl

Married, yes, practicing(tm) poly, yes, if not actively poly at present Happily married here, and honestly, I am not even really looking. I won't say I couldn't love somebody else, but have no desire to seek out more. However, when I met my wife, she told me she knew there was a female soul...

The one other piece of advice I would give to all involved here (and anyone going through anything vaguely similar): life, happiness, and "goodness" are too precious to waste. Sure, if something is over, it's over, and it can be difficult. But address issues, and ultimately move on, whether...

I hope you read this even if you don't reply. Matt, First, my condolences to all three of you. This is certainly not what any of you wanted. My one piece of advice which I haven't directly seen others give is-- you say you aren't hurting. Your own words though call that false, though. "I...

Chaos: One suggestion, how well do you know your husband... Would he be open to YOU playing matchmaker..... In some places cultures it was not even uncommon for the wife to find/manage mistresses. If you can honestly pick women he might like, but also aren't too crazy, perhaps this would be...

TheMike: That is why, I really tried to avoid the 'health' concerns. To me they are probably the single biggest concern on ow to deal with 'open' relationships, since as you mention, they are taking risks not just for 'you' but everyone else connected.

Good luck and best wishes

Even some of the hard lines clear 'bad' can be not be totally wrong if you stupid and think: "kill "adulterers", it means to kill adulterers" Now killing is perhaps harsh, but as mentioned also, older times were harder times and penalties were often harsher.... Now as to kill adulterers...

Hmm my thought While I am new to this forum I will also say by their very nature Poly's generally are more accepting of alternate lifestyles then many others. So for many they might not know the difference, and for others, even if they understand 'open sex', 'swinging', etc is not really...

their partner and their partner(s). While she is not currently in another relationship, it is an open possibility. Likewise, while I certainly would not expect to be part of said relationship if one did develop, would have to admit I am pretty sure it would fuel some fantasies. (probably...

There are a lot of pages here, so I apologize if some of these have been addressed, but I read the first couple and then the last few... 1) Have you considered part of the problem is sounds like your BF is getting varied attached (dad to your son), part of the issues may be insecurities and...

Welcome Welcome. While new to the forums here also, hopefully you can find some advice and friends. That being said you might be surprised how many others are like you 'the neighbors wouldn't understand' so keep it behind closed door. Haven't seen any statistics, but personally would be...

Lia: The questions might be better raised in Poly Relationships Corner section. So this might be moved their (or you might want to re post there). Too not jealous here, to totally come from your husband's standpoint but can begin to... Relationships are a compromise, so both sides will often...

That sounds far more swinger, then poly... Either way my advice to you... Needs to be said, but will leave it at: have you/her considered and comfortable with the obvious health concerns. Past that: Are you happy/comfortable/getting what you need out of the relationship? Are you concerned...

One thought, Any possibility of HIM finding an additional partner. While I will echo everyone else, and say he does sound rather self-focused and less caring about YOUR feelings, then I personally would want in a partner, one of the advantages (imo at least) of a Poly life style, is the...

Tdh17: I have to agree with JaneQ alot. It doesn't really sound like the two of you are 'using' each other any more then any relationship. It does sound like both of you have a healthy respectful relationship. The relationship sounds pretty symbiotic to me. Now I will also agree on the...