Recent content by Laybon

Hi GalaGirl I am definitely participating in an open relationship to avoid breaking up and I think she is too. If you love somebody and they love you but they also love someone else and you want to stay together then an open relationship is the only solution, right? She said that having to...

GalaGirl Thanks for taking the time to respond to me. And thanks for those links which are sooo relevant. I might ask her to read them. I don't know how I feel about the cheating. It's still painful but I trust her now that she's told me everything. I certainly didn't want to open the...

Hey Galagirl I'm not used to reigning myself in with her. I'd rather just talk about whatever comes up. I don't know what you mean when you say personal boundaries.

TenK Thanks for your amazing post. I really appreciate it. I need a bit of time to think about what you said - you summed up my feelings very well! You're right about me taking my mental focus away from her and back to me or other things, which is what I would like to do, but that's...

Yes, Evie. I think you understand how I feel and what my concerns are. And thanks for the advice. I have had a conversation with her about my concerns of who should know what and she shares them. She said she didn't know what she would say. Until a little over a month ago I thought I was in...

Girlfriend/wife = same thing these days

Hey fallenAngelina Thanks for your input. The thing is she isn't/wasn't a single woman. She was, or at least she wanted me to think she was, for quite some time, in a monogamous relationship with me. I'm sorry if my considerate attitude seems old fashioned to you. Perhaps I should just not...

Thanks for the support and the links. Just read the first one and found it helped.

Cheers Kevin. I took onboard what you said and today I asked her to slow it down a little. I Can't tell whether she agreed or not. She's got access to some really good friends where she is and hopefully they've given her the same advice. As it stands though she is meeting chef tomorrow for a...

Hey Leetah Thanks for your reply I suppose that the family in question here assume she's monogamous. We're very new to polyamory. She's only just decided that the polyamorous title fits her. Yes ok, she doesn't have to tell them that they're sexual relationships but people do talk. I hope so...

It won't make sense to everyone. You know that. I'm having a hard time dealing with it emotionally. That's before we even start to deal with the practicalities.

I'm not sure if the family are open minded or not. She already told me that they aren't happy about her having 'friends' staying. Yes I can talk with her before. I could call her tomorrow but I'm trying to give get some space for her to figure things out. We've discussed things to death over...

Thanks both of you. She's just bought more than 2. And she's ordered me a copy. Waiting for it to arrive. I'm not handling my feelings well all the time. This hinge thing is interesting and I think you're right about her responsibilities. So listen to this dilemma: She works in Switzerland in...

Thanks Kevin. I appreciate your words. Evie summed it up well when she said if I knew when she was with him/anyone them I'd know when to work through my emotions. I do trust her. Can have her secrets. It's lies that I won't put up with. I think she understands that.

Hey Evie Thanks for your thoughts. I spoke with her tonight and she will tell me when she's with him. She is in love with him. They're in love with each other and it's brand new and exciting for them I'm sure. I'm not really jealous of his big car and pool. I'm jealous of her feelings for him...