Recent content by Lemondrop

All of the poly people I know face-to-face are non-Christian of some variety or another. (I consider myself Pagan, as in, don't try to label me I'll just change to irritate you.) Of the people who know I'm in a poly relationship, and accept it, there is no unifying religion or faith. I did...

Ack! I was taught that "warlock" means "oathbreaker". No male Pagan I know would willingly be known as oathbreaker. (Nor would I.)

Update Sunday is monogamous. These days, hugs are few and far between. I had a long period of grief, and I have a hard time not taking it personally, but I try to be philosophical about it. Asha, Easy and I seem to have settled into a more platonic-type relationship. No one seems to have...

I'm still around, though as you can see I don't check in as often as I might. >.< My quad has been together for three years and has gone through some changes. While we still consider ourselves family, my other male partner (Sunday) decided he was going to be monogamous (which probably doesn't...

Look at me, coming in late. I have been married to the same man for 22 years, since about six weeks after I turned 18. I've *never* been bored with him, not sexually, not personally. I've been angry, frustrated, disappointed, resentful, sad, happy, in love, proud, tolerant, amused...all the...

1) An awful lot of people I know have security clearances, and have reason to believe that polyamory could hurt them in a review. 2) I have children, and have reason to believe (experience) that even the people I love would turn me in to CPS if I strayed sufficiently from what was considered...

Whatever evidence we have on evolution, I believe that what RP is referring to is the fact that *some people identify as monogamous in real life*. Right now. And they live it, whether it's hard or not. The statement that "monogamy isn't actually a natural state" is either incorrect, or...

Can I also point out, at no point have you heard anything straight from the girlfriend's mouth? It's all rumor at this point. For all you know, someone told her that *you* threatened to stab *her*. Ever play telephone? If you really want a relationship with this guy, you can't let the rumor...

Just a few thoughts, if they help... It often helps me to communicate in writing. I can think about what I'm going to say, and I don't get distracted from what I'm actually trying to communicate. Also, I feel less need to keep things to myself to avoid upsetting people. And less embarrassed...

I'm confused. Closed is closed. Unless she intends to change something--leave the existing relationship, talk with her partners about opening up--she has told you that she doesn't intend to move forward with a relationship with you. Also, the health of her triad relationship, while it may...

Well, I can tell by what nycindie said, that I'm missing background that might make me sound wiser than I do right now. :) But, typical of me, I can't keep my mouth shut anyway. He said, "Most couples would have..." Well, it's not about what most couples would have. It's about the two of...

Oh ho! Smart! :)

You have lovely replies already, and I don't have much to add. The part that jumped out at me that didn't seem to be addressed was: " if my partner is having an easy time exploring other sexual/emotional partners while i'm at home twiddling my thumbs, i'm pretty sure it is going to hurt my...

RP, 11 pages in the sticky! I skimmed them and added the info I didn't see. For anyone who hasn't looked at the Books and Websites sticky, do! It had a lot of good reviews on books I had no idea existed. Great reading!

By request, I'm copying some recommendations here that I posted elsewhere. I've also read Pagan Polyamory by Raven Kaldera, and enjoyed it. I found it fairly gentle to a hesitant, frightened newbie. I thought that everyone on the internet had seen (and quoted) this site, but I didn't see it...