Recent content by liberumcredo

Clarification @Redpepper: True, true. What I said, ("women are not as visually aroused as men") was a general statement about the usual state of affairs. It was not intended to be an absolute, to apply to all cases, or to imply that women don't appreciate the visual aesthetic. As always, it is...

@zylya: My misunderstanding then. Also, I agree that I am not giving him enough help on *how* to work on the emotional needs area. Hopefully someone more emotionally intelligent than I can help fill in my gaps? @nycindie: Really? Do you know who denounced it, or where their study is? I can't...

Following up @zylya and @nycindie: I am pretty sure he is referring to looking at other women, as in, they pass through his field of vision and he thinks they are sexy. Marbit, please correct me if I am wrong. This is a real issue that (at least some) mono people have to deal with. Given the...

We worked through it... Marbit, Oh how I can empathize. I was in almost the exact same situation about 8 years ago, with my wife. It was a rough patch, but we eventually worked it out. I will tell you my story, because I hope that it will help you in your own life. I was raised Mormon...

STBF, Thank you for clarifying that your daughters are in their teens; that is an important part of this picture. I think that there are several other important parts to this picture that we cannot see yet. Could you describe what you are feeling for each of the women in your life? You said...

Hello IP, First and foremost great job owning your emotions and working to create positive change in yourself! You said that you know your responses are out of line with reality, but I worry that you may be selling yourself a bit short. Is your partner actually cancelling plans with you in...

esarati, I can certainly sympathize with you, but I think that you have some deeply rooted misperceptions. First, me: I am a 30 year old father of 3, have been married for 10 years, have been poly for 7, and while my wife has had many friends, romances, and lovers, sometimes several at once...

I have looked through the threads, and have not been able to find this particular question asked, so I am sorry if it is a re-post. How does everyone feel about it if one partner speaks to the other about you, for advice or as emotional preparation to talking to you? Is it okay to discuss...

Hello Danny, I think that we are going to need a lot more specific information before we can give you much more specific advice. What was the state of your marriage when you tried polyamoury before? What did you do to try it? What happened that it did not go well? More recently, we need to know...