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    Word Association Game!

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    Word Association Game!

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    Framing Intimacy

    I wonder if a level of interdependence is an aspect of intimacy as well. I can't think of a relationship that is of substance that doesn't have some level of mutual benefit. I think you can have similar levels of dependency on multiple people (emotional support from close friends, for example)...
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    Framing Intimacy

    Baby in my arms so I am a one-handed typer. Please excuse typos. For me, the core of intimacy is the willingness to allow someone to see the true me, even if that does not happen. For example, there is an intimacy with my children - they do not know everything about me but, if it was needed, I...
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    Framing Intimacy

    Have you read anything by Brene Brown? I think you'd like (and agree) with her.
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    Hi, nice to meet you.
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    Word Association Game!

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    Comfort with particular people...

    I think there is a difference between "I feel jealous because this relationship is happening" and "I feel uncomfortable because it is happening with a specific person." If you are uncomfortable with a potential lover of your girlfriend, I think you should voice your concern. It is her...
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    Waiting, or maybe not.

    Thank you November. And yeah, I know, I know, I'm not patient at all. I'm learning it though. :p A lot of what she's processing and saying is not comforting. It isn't necessarily painful, but it isn't comforting. Knowing what she's processing is comforting though, rather than presuming I...
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    Where are you from ?

    We're in Dallas. Looking for friends :)
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    Waiting, or maybe not.

    Lol, crickets. :p
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    Waiting, or maybe not.

    **Disclaimer: I am sick with a fever, and I think it makes sense but I'm not absolutely sure.** The uncertainty continues... I have been dating Rose for two years. Last weekend she visited Orchid for the first time in a little more than two years. (Yes, I am the rebound girl) They really...
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    New-ish to polyamory, looking for friends

    I definitely understand what you're saying! I know that there are some lovely people here and there are several meetups that you can join locally.
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    Trashtalking by partners and potential partners: What are your rules and tolerances?

    I think, because emotions are involved, a person gets a warning. Something along the lines of "You may not like my primary, but you are with me and need to respect my partner(s)." I'd say it with kindness but I would say it. If the trash-talking continues I would tell the person that I was...
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    New girl here!

    Hi :) Sounds like your journey into polyamory is just beginning too. I have found that this is a great board for these discussions.