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Hi @Marcus. Like @kdt26417 says, the content on a private forum wouldn't be Googlable, so no one could stumble across it in a search. Even when you're not writing under your real name, it's easy to reveal information that could identify you with a bit of detective work. And some of us have...

I'm glad you can relate! But sorry to hear that you found open-minded friends negative too. It seems like this forum is a safe space for people to let their feelings and worries out and get honest feedback, which is great. I suppose you just have to find a way to use it within your comfort zone...

Thanks a lot.

Thank you @kdt26417! Yes, that would have been ideal, but never mind. I've already had a helpful chat with one member who kindly messaged me (thanks @Evie!) but another perspective might be good.

Yes, definitely, when it comes to this topic. The people I mentioned aren't friends - just acquaintances - and both men a good few years older than me (I'm female, by the way). I wouldn't feel comfortable approaching either of them for advice. I'm also keen to avoid my personal life becoming...

That's unfortunate, but it's good to know that you've found a more welcoming space here.

Thanks @icesong - I think I'll follow my instinct and avoid them.

Yes, @MeeraReed, I know exactly what you mean!

Thanks @ref2018. That's not a bad idea.

Thanks @AlwaysGrowing. Yes, I'm aware there are Facebook groups but I wouldn't be comfortable joining one as myself. I'm not keen on setting up an alt profile for that purpose either and logging in and out. As someone who admins various Facebook groups, I'm always very suspicious of anyone with...

Thanks @GalaGirl!

Yes, good point. Thanks.

Thanks @kdt26417. That makes sense. I find it really strange that there isn't a completely private forum on polyamory! Or maybe there is and it's so private that hardly anyone knows it exists.

Ah, OK. So I just choose a member and message them. What about if I wanted to ask a group?

Thanks for the quick and helpful response and kind words, @Evie. I have looked on here a few times before finally signing up for an account and posting, but I'll investigate more thoroughly now following your tips. Please can you briefly explain how the private messaging function works, if I...